Hood Shaming

As I have already blogged about this please follow the link to my Tumblr Blog…

Hood shaming is Wrong and not what our communities are about… Any shaming is against the basic principals of the leather community.



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Leather XMAS Pup Style.

I have decided to break down my Leather Xmas Experience for 2014 into 2 posts – This first one will be about pupping it on Xmas and my second will be about the special gift that I brought SM-Leatherboy. Both I will see will be relatively short posts as most of Xmas day I slept.

Lets start by acknowledging that not everyone are as lucky at this time of year, not everyone has friends and family to be with and not everyone can afford to cerebrate, and some people this time of year can be full of emotional upheaval and bad memories, whilst others its just shit. However we should try too sometimes stop and look at the fortunes we may have, sometimes they are plenty and sometimes they are not.

This year I was fortunate to be surrounded by close leather friends – not all but many, some were missing and not available but these guys are who I call my family. Do not get me wrong I am close to my family (blood relations) and they are dear to me, I just note as I get older my values have changed and who I call my family is a little different.

My man he brought me something very special to help me being who I am, and that is a leather pup.

When you think you couldn’t get any more of a leather pup, he surprises me with finesse, creativity and imagination with the gifts he gets me. This gift ever since I have received it has been with me many times and I have used it on many occasions. It is up there with the personlised lead that he brought me.  I will let the pictures speak for themselves:

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Pup Headspace

A headspace is place in your mind where you can put yourself into a role that you otherwise would not fulfill. This is similar to the concept of self-hypnosis where you are able to achieve a higher sense of awareness of self and are able to focus intently on a single idea and suggest ideas to yourself that you might otherwise find silly. Just as there are many different ways to enter a headspace, there are many different headspaces one can enter. In other words, a slave and a pup may both be in the same gear, and be eating out of the same dog bowl, but due to the differences in personality, will result in them acting differently. Having experienced the power of hypnosis, I find that a feeling of security and calmness is the basic formula for achieving a suggestible state of mind. This can be assisted with gear like blindfolds, hoods, earplugs, or other types of sensory deprivation.

In my experience in pup play, I find that it’s not the gear, but the mentality which really makes a good pup. Sure a high quality pup hood can make a hot photo, but pup play is about the dynamic relationship between pup and Sir. For me, a pup headspace is achieved in stages. I first need to get into a submissive headspace. For me, I find bondage like handcuffs, collars, fist mitts, hoods or the like to help me become more passive (after exhausting myself struggling of course). This is where the concept of self-hypnosis plays a role. As a bound submissive, I start to tell myself that I am not in control, and that in all that matters right now is Sir’s desires and wishes, because I no longer have choice.
The next step is a bit more tricky, as the ability to enter and the process of entering a pup headspace differs from person to person. I find that being treated as a pup, being pet and being given simple commands and rewards is helpful in lulling myself into the headspace, but for newcomers, this may seem silly and unintuitive. The key is to place yourself into a state of deep relaxation where you can suggest to yourself that acting and reacting like a dog isn’t silly, but expected. Although easier said than done, once a headspace is achieved, a sub can be pushed harder and deeper into the role, and a Dom can have a hell of a lot of fun with an eager pup.


This article post describes quit well, in my experiences what is pup headspace, and I agree gear is not what gets me into my pup headspace, Though I personally find a collar or hood really helps me, the smell of leather starts getting me relaxed and into that submissive role, or even the feel of rope against my skin, or restraints attached to my wrists and ankles will certainly put me into sub space. However I do not require it to get into my pup head, as the author above found it a way that he does.

For me, it may be a stretch, rolling the shoulders, then relaxation and then letting go of my human side, a collar really helps, and even calling me by my pup name, will take me our of human mode. Just being put on a designated mat, that my partner SM-Leatherboy has commenced will assist me entering into my sacred space of pup-topia. I also need to block out the days events and stop thinking like a human does, so I need a clear mind, and this is achieved by breathing exercises, and relaxation. getting down on all fours. I find as a leather pup, the smell of leather starts the journey towards my altered states.

I also have to have trust in the person who is handling me and looking after me, that bond is unique and special to me.  The  Handler/Sir/Master has my submission in their hands and I have gifted it to them of my own free will and want them to have a level of control over my submission. The level that is offered is one that has been agreed to, and sometimes it is complete control as I drop from my human side to my pup side.

Pup’s Comment:

I have been so fortunate and blessed to be loved by my caring partner SM-Leatherboy he has helped in my growth and development. I would also like to thank three other great friends – Hazy, Dominus and Maximus. These four inspirational men have helped with my growth and my journey and have kicked my ass when needed and also allowed me to be me and explore my pup-hood.

I have many others who have answered my questions and even offered advice and these include Wolf, Gpup Alpha, PupBoss, Kobi and Alex