The Endorphin Levels in BDSM

 

Disclaimer: The author is not a medical doctor, though this information has been checked with a doctor and two nurses who are in the BDSM scene. Frisky Business Boutique assumes no responsibility for people who use this information or for the effects that may arise from the application of the information presented in this article.

Skout Comments:This is not my work, however it is excellent reading, the discourse has discussions on the facts behind what is presented. I personally on several occasions have experienced what is being illustrated in the article below and am happy to testify that it worked for me in the dozen scenes that I have done using this method as a submissive. Keeping in mind that at-least half was have a concise awareness that we were testing the method. The other half was more organic but the Dominant reported in using the method and achieved the same results. 

Further note, I dropped like a mother fucker so After Care of your submissive is essential and also Dom drop can occur so be mindful of this… Play and stay safe… Pup Spanky. 

Source: Frisky Business

Although everyone into the BDSM scene has heard of endorphins, very few people really understand what they are, how they work, what the  “endorphin high” is all about, and how one can correctly induce the body to produce them. This short primer will answer those questions, and serve as a guide for anyone topping another so that they may successfully send their bottom into a very deep endorphin stupor (also known as “leaving them in a big puddle of quivering ecstasy”).

The endorphin high is caused by a bunch of natural, morphine-like chemicals the body pumps into the brain to reduce a person’s sensitivity to pain and raising the pain threshold. The fact that the body seems to release these endorphins in measured “loads” is a key to understanding how to manipulate  the body to produce these loads and release them into the body and brain region when the load is ready.

Another chemical, adrenaline, is also produced by the body in reaction to pain, and its behavior should be understood also. This is covered later more thoroughly in the section on aftercare, which is a very essential element in guaranteeing the success of the effort.

The endorphin loads release in their entirety, and it takes the body about ten minutes to generate another one. After the body releases a load into the system, it needs at least ten minutes of some sort of stimulation before it will be ready to release another one. This stimulation can be just about anything – sensation play, light paddling, flogging, or light caning, for example – and it does not have to be nearly the intensity of the stimulation that caused the release of the last endorphin load.

Once prepared, an increase in stimulation over a five-minute span up to a measured “climax” will trigger the body to release the freshly-prepared load, based upon the submissive’s current pain threshold, measured to push them over a new edge.

Armed with this information, what does a session look like from the top’s and bottom’s points of view?

When a scene first starts, there are no endorphins in the submissive and even fairly light torment is very stingy, ouchy, and, well, painful! Fortunately, the body keeps an endorphin reserve in place ready to release in case of an emergency. This reserve endorphin load is released after just a few minutes of even relatively mild stimulation building to a mild climax, and suddenly the pain threshold clearly rises. Now, the subject can easily tolerate what may have been pushing the limits before, making him jump around and squirm, for instance. This new, more pain-tolerant state is Level One. There is no altered state of consciousness yet, but there is an increased pain threshold.

Once this has happened, for the top the next 10 minutes is spent doing anything that provides relatively light but constant stimulation to induce the bottom’s body to create the next endorphin load for release. This is a good time for sensation play, light paddling, flogging, or whipping. This is a chance for the top to relax, since the stimulation can be very mild and easy to apply during this time.

Once the ten minutes has passed, a build in intensity over a subsequent five-minute period will excite the body to a peak, and a sudden 10 to 15 seconds of intense stimulation just beyond the person’s current pain threshold limit will trigger the body to eject its freshly-made endorphin load into the bloodstream. Now the bottom will be at  Level Two, with still no perceivable altered state of consciousness (beyond panting in relief that you, the top, have ceased with the intense bit), but there is a considerable and noticeable leap in pain threshold now.

Following this, another ten minutes of mild, easy stimulation provokes the body into generating the next load. Keep this well below the pain threshold you’ve now created, with just a little intense whack every so often, about a minute apart. This will keep the adrenaline build-up to a minimum, for reasons explained later on. Time to relax, tops; rest that arm and wrist a bit! This relaxing ten minutes is followed with five minutes of building the intensity again to well above the previous level. The bottom’s pain threshold is pretty high now and he can take a lot more before the body interprets this as being “in crisis” and triggers the next endorphin release. Finish off with 10 seconds to a minute of a very intense, over-the-edge push, and the body will inject that next load.

Now at  Level Three, the bottom will definitely feel a little bit woozy, exhibiting a mildly-drugged state. His eyelids should appear droopy, and he will fall into a more relaxed condition than before, more low moans and groans, and lower inhibitions. Again, applying ten minutes of any relatively mild stimulation followed by a five-minute build and a 10- to 15-second intense climax well beyond the previous one will release the next endorphin load and push the bottom into a very nice Level Four head space.

At this Level Four state, there is a very definite altered state of consciousness.  The bottom will feel drugged and will be very compliant and submissive now. This is countered, however, by the largest charges of adrenaline he has received so far, the result of the intense climax just used to push him over this edge. The bottom is still quite communicative and his reaction time is still quick. The bottom may even be hypersensitive: a small whack with a paddle, cane, or whip can now generate a huge amount of twitching or jerking of the subject’s body. Now, during the ten minute “treading water” period for the top, the moans and groans will be longer and deeper, the body often limp in its restraints, and the reactions to the occasional harder strikes will be obvious. This is the top’s finest time: she  can still relax and not exert herself very hard, yet produce fine moans of ecstasy from her bottom with hardly any provocation! The pain threshold is high even though the reaction time is increased from the adrenaline. Harder occasional strikes are welcomed, and the reactions are certainly encouraging!

Sexual play with the bottom should occur around Level Three or Four. After after hitting Level Five, the bottom may be unable to concentrate for long on what he is doing. That can result in passionate and inhibition-free indulgence, resulting in heights of ecstasy never before experienced, or the bottom can lose his erection and be unable to concentrate. There’s no telling which way the bottom will go once he achieves Level Five or Six.

After this ten minute endorphin replenishment period, it is important to be very sensitive to the limit levels crossed earlier, as the top begins that five-minute build in intensity that will end in the most intense limit-pushing the top might do with the bottom for this session (presuming the top stops at Level Five). The bottom will have a very high pain threshold at this time, but also will be fairly groggy and less able to communicate a safe word. In fact, the bottom will now be so compliant that it is very unlikely that he would use it even if he ought to do so! So, push this “grand finale” with finesse and sensitivity to what is going on with the bottom! At the other end of the 10- to 30- second climactic build in intensity – in a wonderful blast – this latest endorphin load will push the bottom into Level Five: a state of supreme ecstasy, docility, and the bottom’s ability to take just about anything the top could do to him. The bottom will become very limp and relaxed very suddenly – and be very clearly in an altered state of consciousness.

This is the point most people end the scene and remove the bottom to cloak him in a blanket and begin the all-important aftercare, and unless the top knows the bottom extremely well, this is where the session should end. However, for those who do know the bottom’s limits, the rules and timing are the same as with the earlier segments. Now, the “mild” stimulation could be fairly intense, and the bottom will become extremely submissive and accepting of any amount of stimulation the top bestows upon him. This is a dangerous condition because there is NO WAY a person will utter a safe word in this condition. The bottom can barely talk at all! It is best to keep the stimulation relatively intense but not too extreme. The stronger intensity will hold up the adrenaline levels, and the combination with the elevated endorphins levels creates a condition of intense excitement and of simultaneously intense ecstatic relaxation for the bottom, so he’ll be into receiving whatever is being doled out. (More on adrenaline in a minute, though!) Again, finish off after the ten minutes with a building in intensity to one beyond that reached earlier, with a 10- to 15-second extreme point, and the next endorphin load will be released. Now we have brought the bottom to a very amazing  Level Six! Again, this should only be attempted with a bottom whose limits and abilities are already very well known. The top is working without the benefit of safe words being utterable; care must be exercised this whole while.

The bottom’s behavior can become unpredictable at this point with all the adrenaline and endorphins coursing through the body.  Be prepared to restrain against some wild thrashing and arm flailing (or at least be out of harm’s way). The bottom is in such an intensely altered state of consciousness that his reactions could possibly be extremely primitive in nature. He may only be capable of animal-like noises and very little speech. Following this reasoning, approach the subject as you would a wild animal: very gently, speak soothingly, and gesture in a calming manner. Be prepared for sudden jerking, or attempts to get away. Don’t take the erratic behavior personally! At Level Six, this person is totally ga-ga! Be assured, the bottom is enjoying every millisecond of this experience, and a very long period of dreaminess is now in store for him if the aftercare is handled properly.

Why do I go on and on about the aftercare? The work of putting endorphins into the subject’s body is finished, right? Well, yes, but you have also succeeded in putting very, very large amounts of adrenaline into the bottom’s system, and adrenaline is tricky stuff. Even at Level Four, aftercare is important because of how quickly adrenaline burns off compared to endorphins, which burn off very slowly. At Level Five or Level Six, there is enough adrenaline in the body that it will take at least 10 to 20 minutes for it to burn off (or longer). During this time, the bottom is likely to experience a number of adrenaline crashes (similar to coffee jags). Some of these can be intense and even quite frightening. The bottom will need to be kept warm and be held and comforted AT LEAST throughout this period of adrenaline burn-off. My opinion is that if you don’t care enough for the bottom to cuddle and caress them for up to half an hour, you probably shouldn’t be taking them to any Level Six endorphin/adrenaline levels.

The adrenaline “crash” experience for the bottom is something many, many tops are unaware of, and they have no concept of the amount of harm they could be doing to someone’s psychological state by not performing adequate, comforting aftercare. All the bottom needs now is to be held and to hold you (or whoever you assign to perform aftercare), to be comforted by your presence, and to be allowed to make you become the entire focus of their awareness. No stroking, or massage, or other stimulus is needed or even desirable at this time. What is important is to keep in contact with the bottom (not requiring words as responses, merely nods), and instruct the bottom every little while to relax. The adrenaline will have him in a very agitated state – with high heart beat and breathing levels – and this situation is completely counter to the endorphin experience. Sure, the bottom has a ton of endorphins in his system, but the adrenaline is presently holding the endorphins off and the bottom isn’t experiencing their full effect. The top’s guidance is extremely important to help the bottom relax through the adrenaline burn-off period.

If not actually “talked down” out of the adrenaline agitation, the bottom could easilynever allow himself to relax enough to even feel the massive content of endorphins that currently exist in his system! Maybe you’ve seen a bottom who –  after an hour of intense stimulation to the point of near-total collapse on the cross or bench –  is released and after a mere couple of minutes is mingling with people as if nothing ever happened. These people are floating on a self-sustained adrenaline buzz. This is not only unhealthy, but these bottoms are also cheating themselves out of a long, longstretch of total endorphin-induced ecstasy!

Aftercare Instructions

While gently holding the bottom and letting him hold you back, coo softly and comfort him, and tell him to let himself relax. You will feel him do so as he complies to your wishes, as he is quite docile and open to receiving instructions at this point. But he will also slowly tense up again from the adrenaline. Keep reminding him to relax, telling him to give himself permission to relax totally.

As the bottom begins to relax after a while, he may experience a frightening “falling off a cliff” feeling that makes him tense again, or “blackness” as the endorphins relax the bottom’s optic nerve. This is a side effect of the chemicals burning off. The top’s job is to reassure the bottom that these experiences are completely normal, to let go and pass through it. The bottom has to relax through the sensation of falling or blackness with the understanding that this is quite normal and is a common experience. Once he does that, having “relaxed through it,” he will be “in it” after that point, and will relax deeply, often seeing beautiful technicolor visions and dreamlike landscapes, spaces, and places. How sweet!

Once this happens, your bottom needs only a little more loving attention, and can then be left bundled in a blanket somewhere on their own to float in a happy bubble, very possibly for hours!

“Flying”

There is another factor that can produce an altered state of consciousness far, farbeyond even that of the most extreme endorphin experience. This is experienced by submissives whose intense focus upon their Master or Mistress (their Dominant) – and upon pleasing them – eventually leads to a hallucinogenic kind of altered state known commonly in the BDSM community as “flying.” This word has an almost mythological aura in the scene for very good reasons! It is probably the most profound experience one can have as a submissive. It involves a state of intense devotion towards the dominant (who is not just a mere “top” at this point) that borders upon religious worship, with complete trust and a total commitment to please and satisfy the Dom thoroughly. Through the attainment of a complete selflessness and focus on the dominant, a transformation takes place that is very, very deep, almost trance-like. It can become so profound as to produce an extended, blissful hallucinogenic state. Many have reported even seeing visions under the spell of this “flying” effect. All have attested to the profound sense of peace and bliss they have experienced while even near the edge of this state.

This flying state can be attained by some with very little endorphin content in their systems. (Some claim no endorphins are required, but I’m quite certain most folks have attained at least a level Three or Level Four endorphin high in order to trigger the total release of inhibitions that this psychological state seems to require, at least generally speaking.) With practice, the release into this “flying” submissive-space should come easier and easier, eventually with even a mere suggestion triggering the effect for some with very little or even no endorphin content being in the picture. COMBINED with the Level Five or Six endorphin head space, there likely can be no deeper state of ecstasy possible for the bottom — short of total enlightenment! Until such an experience of full enlightenment can be accomplished, perhaps the attainment of this interim bliss is acceptable, and certainly should be considered an attractive and enjoyable state to be in! The secret ingredients are: intense focus; a commitment to please the dominant utterly; and, complete and total devotion. These ingredients – with some endorphins in the mix – should produce a quite satisfying effect for both the submissive and the dominant.

 

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What Is Headspace In BDSM

If you’re new to BDSM you might have heard the term headspace or one of its variations such as sub space, puppy space, drop and other such terms. What does this mean? Head space is generally considered to be an altered state of consciousness within BDSM play that is used to ‘lose yourself’ in a scene. It is described as a state of mind whereby the body’s endorphins, enkephalins and adrenaline take over the mind and produce a morphine like effect. It’s what takes over our mind when we engage in risky sexual practices such as urethral sounding. To the ordinary person, putting something down your urethra might sound outlandish, painful and crazy, and to a certain extent it is. But by altering the mind and approaching things slightly differently an individual can come to terms about doing things which might seem outlandish and outrageous. They use their hormones and arousal to reframe their state of mind into participating into a sexual activity that they may or may not have been into beforehand.

It varies between individuals, but head space is a period whereby there is an altered state of reality. Headspace is a period whereby the individual enters an altered psychological state that manifests itself into physical and emotional actions, images, feelings and thoughts that have been brought on by a dramatic increase in adrenaline and endorphin that will occur during a scene. It’s hard to explain without sounding odd – but let’s try.

 

Head Space In Bdsm Is Being In A Particular Frame Of Mind To Allow The Body The Ability To Handle The Activity

 

When engaging in BDSM play it is referred to as a scene. In a scene there is generally some form of role play being done – generally whereby one participant is subjected to one activity while the other one maintains control of the activity. Take for example one of the most relatable forms of BDSM as a power exchange within a dominant and submissive relationship. The dominant is the one in control of the situation, whereas the submissive is the one that carries out, or is subjected to the control the dominant. In order to do this the participants need to let go who they are and become a character of sorts. They might not normally be submissive or dominant outside of that room, but within that room and within that ‘scene’ they become something else. To reinforce that they might employ the use of BDSM aesthetics, by that it is meant BDSM toys and tools will generally have a certain look. Consider the attire of a dominant, if he/she walks in in casual clothes, ripped jeans, wearing thongs then that projects a completely different aesthetic than what it would if they walked into a room in a leather hood, with black gloves, black boots and handcuffs swaying from their fingers. Essentially, the purpose of a scene is to lose yourself within the scene. Some activities might involve pushing your body to the extreme, inflating dildos and anal stretching is one such example. By not being in a state of arousal, or preparing your mind and body for the activity at hand, you’ll find that you’re not able to enjoy it in the same way and might otherwise find it very difficult to continue.

It is a form of acting in a way whereby you’re letting go of who you are, role playing in a scene if you will. Once you have let go of who you are, and you’re focused on the scene you are said to be within a form of headspace.

Head space is more often commonly associated with the submissive, but there is evidence to suggest that dominants also experience an altered state of consciousness as well. We’ll start by exploring the idea of Sub-Space before moving on to Dom-space.

What Is Subspace In BDSM

Sub Space is an altered state of consciousness that varies between individuals. The very basic kind of definition that can be applied is that it refers to a state where the brainwaves in the mind are functioning in a different way that the basic defaults of ‘being awake and alert’ and ‘sleeping’. Keep in mind that this is a very basic definition and the idea of head space varies considerably between individuals and play mates. Brains are exceptionally complicated and even with scientific research into head space during BDSM play, there have been no definitive answers as to how and why it occurs as of yet.

 

Mental Stimulation Is An Important Aspect Of Bdsm As It Releases Chemicals And Hormones To Help The Body Cope

 

What we do know is that sub space is triggered through a reaction that is a response to intense stimulation that results from a scene. It is partly regulated and induced by biochemical changes that occur within the body which have been triggered through the physical and emotional stimulation of the scene. This is primarily referred to as a physiological sub space. It is where the submissive goes into a scene. It’s not referred to a physical place, but the altered state does affect the body and allow them to handle more stimulation. This type of space also provides for emotional stability and in a way, psychological compartmentalization.

A sub is generally aware of how they descended into sub space, and they will remember that a major event has happened but they might forget intimate details, or struggle to recall the majority of what happened during that state. For some, it enhances memory and for others the descent into a sub space allows for deep and reflective thinking and internal problem solving of emotional turmoil and events. It varies considerably between people but the one thing that is a constant within sub space is that it affects people’s awareness considerably. Some submissives might see themselves becoming wrapped up in their own thoughts and feelings to the extent whereby they are practically unaware of anything else such as their surroundings their individuality as a person and time, others might shut off completely and enter a trance like state which sees them no longer in control, and in some ways resembles a hypnotic trance like state.

 

Why Do Submissives Lose Control in Kink?

When playing in a scene, the submissive will be concentrating on the small things. The touch of the dominants hand, the cane, the restraints and how they feel against the skin and they might become carrier away from the mental high that comes about as a result of the increased attention and through the feelings of complete and utter submission and trust. To do this properly they must believe the scene, they must be aware of the limitations of the scene, and they must be aware of the safety procedures in place that are there to protect them. With all these security measures in place, a sub can forget about the danger and the risks and allow themselves to immerse within the scene. As they relax and put more and more trust into that of the dominant within the scene, the natural chemicals of the body will kick in. Trust over takes fear and the flight and fight response will emerge, but it will be controlled. The stimulation will slowly increase, the body will tense and the individuals breathing will become deeper and faster as they lose themselves. It is roughly at this point where the adrenaline rush will occur and the endorphins will take control of the body resulting in the altered mental state. Some people will use BDSM and the altered state of consciousness to help illuminate the mind and achieve a different clarity through which they can resolve issues. BDSM in this fashion becomes more of an illumuniating art form which changes the perception of the individual and allows for the illumination of the mind.

When in this state it is the responsibility of the dominant to ensure the safety of the submissive. Factors such as the intensity of the high and altered state, as well as the speed in which the submissive got there will definitely need to be considered. The dominant needs to notice how far into the sub space the playmate is and from there needs to consider the reaction, the mental state and whether there are any physiological signs that need to be noticed; such as the breathing rate, sounds, and sweating.

From here they might descend into a trance. It resembles a state of strong relaxation and might be akin to a meditative trance or hypnotic trance that has the potential to grow deeper quickly. In this state mental processes will be delayed or slower, and the use of safety precautions such as a safe word or signal might become difficult or even impossible to use in this state. It is up to the dominant to work out when a submissive is in such a state and respond and react accordingly. Verbal responses might be slow to occur and or become non-existent the submissive might fall into certain patterns of behaviour which include moaning, drooling, and laughter, sobbing and growling. Such trance like states can often be seen in examples of over stimulation where something like a high powered bodywand or massage vibe is used to provide intense stimulation to the genitals over a sustained period of time. The body finds itself unable to cope with such intense stimulation and flooding of chemicals and hormones so it enters a trance like state in order to cope and make sense of its surrounding. Whilst this state is otherwise safe, it is imperative that the dominant recognise the risks from continuing and respond accordingly.

The danger in such an altered state is that sometimes a sub will descend further into a state known as flying or the roaring void. This exceeds the trance like state and can be representative of a dangerous mind set. If previously established safe signals are no longer being responded to then that indicates that it is time to stop play and move into a period of after care. A submissive who has entered such a state are incredibly vulnerable and will require nurturing, and after care. We’ll explain this in our aftercare article.

 

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The Idea Of Dom Head Space

There are some people which value the idea of dom space and others which refuse to acknowledge its existence. Both sides have a point to a degree – those that contest the idea of there being a dom-space contest it on the idea that a dominant is supposed to remain in control and in charge of things all the time. The idea of ‘submitting’ to a dom-space could potentially mean that there is a loss of control and the dominant is in danger of neglecting the sub, or being in a position whereby they will fail to notice the signs that indicate a sub is in danger.

The response to that is that dominants must also experience a change. Few dominants might retain that level of control throughout the entirety of their lives, they might also be in a position where they a role playing and in order to submit to that role, and come into it, they also experience a dom space. There are differences though, with dom space often being referred to as a high with an altered and more pure focus with magnified senses. It can increase the connection with the sexual partner and the sense of time is often lost.

Punishment and Reward

This is an extract from a group conversation on a pup page on Facebook. 

Certainly this could be a good discussion point and what was raised…

The question posed is what could be the difference between reward and punishment when dealing with a pup?

Please note none of these thoughts are mine and were comments from the original post. Names have been removed.

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The vices and virtues of a pup

Lust – Chastity
A pup desires attention, has a lust for contact, and sometimes an insatiable craving for snuggles. However, some of the pups I have met are among the most chaste in existence.

Gluttony – Temperance
Take a bag of cookies to a pack of pups, shout treats, and try to get out alive. I wouldn’t say pups have an excessive desire for treats, they simply like to overindulge given the opportunity. But place a treat on a pup’s muzzle, make it a trick, tell them to wait, and they show a temperance and self-control beyond human levels.

Greed – Charity
Whenever you spot a pup’s blanket fort, you see its den. The place where a pup can hide its treasure. This is where a pup hoards its (stolen) treats, toys and undies, claiming all for its little kingdom. But lure a pup out, snuggle it, play with it, and it will share generously. And, if you’re lucky, it might even sacrifice a place in the fort, along with the hoard.

Sloth – Diligence
Now be fair, what is better than a puppy nap? A pup has many friends, but Sloth has a special place. A nap for the entire day. This isn’t to say a pup is lazy as such, it merely has a smart time management scheme. Don’t waste energy when unnecessary. And, if you’re out of luck, a pup will wake up before you do and zealously be your alarm.

Wrath – Patience
Ever invoked the wrath of a pup? No? Then you never tried to take away its treats. Though harmless, a pup’s growl can be… vexing. However, if you treat a pup right, and care for it, it will show you a harmony and forgiveness many could learn from.

Envy – Kindness
Here’s a survival tip: if you find yourself with a pack of pups, don’t try to only give one of them attention. You’ll end up with a bunch of jealous pups all claiming, even more, attention. But let’s be fair, what is better than the love and trust without prejudice only a pup offers?

Pride – Humility
It’s no secret that pups can be vain. They’ll do their best to show off their looks and what they can do, and on occasion are known to admire the mirror puppy. But if you manage to train your puppy well, and create that harmony, you’ll have its respect and it will do everything to make you happy.

 

Original Source: Pup Saber

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The Darkside

A dark side of our community

Recently I became aware of hate-filled online comments directed at a member of our community by an ‘anonymous’ individual.

The online environment is a space where we can share our opinions and thoughts and feel more in-touch with our chosen communities. Many of us have used the internet to discover and learn more about the subculture of which we are part, make connections and support one another. Unfortunately, it also allows a small minority of people to bully and harass others – often with the mistaken belief that they are doing so anonymously.  I find this horrid and I am dumbfounded that a person who considers themselves to be a member of our community would bully and harass any other individual.

Negotiation, respect, and active consent are the foundation stones of the leather and BDSM communities.  As leathermen we expect the wider community to be tolerant, understanding and respectful of our lifestyles.  Unfortunately, we are not always good at extending these courtesies to others within our community.  Discussion and debate are vital to the survival and development of our community.  And from time-to-time, some of us will be surprised or concerned by opinions expressed by others.  However, such disagreements must be conducted with civility and respect.  “A real leatherman” knows this and does not use the online environment to denigrate and intimidate others.

Benjamin Bullivant – Mr. Queensland Leather 2016

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Pray for Orlando

I was moved by a recent Quote by The BootCo. Brisbane’s current Queensland Leather Boy (QLB) 2016 and I have decided to share this on my blog. Firstly I would like to thank Timothy Roberts for his thoughtful and well written words after the tragic events that have occurred in Orlando.

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Tragedy Has Struck

I write this knowing that the latest news reports are saying that 50 people have lost their lives and another 53 injured in America’s worst gun massacre. While it is being called an act of terror, which I do not dispute, In short it is a crime of hate. A crime against our community. A crime against our freedoms. It is an attempt to prevent us from being who we want to be and love who we want to love.

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Chastity Re-Loaded

Hey all,

I want to thank all those that have made comments both through this blog and social media on the recent topic of male chastity. One of Brisbane’s GLBTIQ and leather community supporters has included one of the chastity blogs on their business blog so go and check them out in store or online:

Spunk’D – BRISBANE’S FIRST MALE ADULT STORE

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There is more to come on Male Chastity but here are the first two blog posts and you can also find it on the Spunk’D Blog and Dave94015. be sure to check out there blogs they are full of great articles and information.

Chastity Health, Safety, Security, And Comfort

Chastity; Myth or Fact

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Have a puptastic day and thank you to all my followers and supporters…

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Chastity Health, Safety, Security, And Comfort

Male Chastity is a great addition to play whether it be for singles, couples, thruple (polyamory) or a D/s style relationship. It allows for the development of trust and is designed to allow the caged guy to really ensure that his play partner is looked after so he is released in order to also ejaculate. Keeping in mind that this is also a fetish and many guys or couples explore this as a lifestyle and the caged guy may go from a short term caged experience to a more long term 24/7 caged lifestyle that could go on for days, weeks or months. 

For my Brisbane based readers, Spunk’D Leather and Fetish Store (www.spunkd.com.au) have experienced retail staff that will be happy to assist you with both the right fight, the device that you are after and generalised advice on male chastity. By all means drop by as you never know when the pup will be there to assist you. 

Whether you will be playing with a partner or alone, Enforced Chastity

Enforced chastity is surrendering sexual control to another. Most typically, a male surrenders his ability to orgasm to another. Frequently, a chastity device is secured to the male’s penis to prevent erection and orgasm.

requires hardware that will safely keep your penis out of trouble and safely under the control of your Key-holder.  

The person who retains control of the male’s penis in enforced male chastity. The term key-holder refers to holding the key that locks a chastity device.

In a Dom/sub relationship generally speaking the key-holder is the Dominant, however there are instances where other negotiations occur, an example of this is that if a person is in a D/s and also in a partnership/relationship with another person. The other partner (not in the D/s) may also be a key-holder. Another example the submissive may also be trusted with a key, say a long distance releationship.

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For long term wear, more than an hour or two, any device must be able to:

  1. Prevent useful erections. Your body will try to get you hard no matter what device you wear. However, an effective one will contain the effort and deny any sexual pleasure.
  2. Prevent masturbation.
  3. Allow you to perform the usual bodily functions. If you can’t pee wearing it, the amount of time you can stay locked up is very short.
  4. Permit ventilation. Human skin is not meant to be wet all the time. Any device that prevents sweat, pee, or any other moisture from evaporating will promote irritations and infections.
  5. Let you keep it clean. Even if you have a chastity belt that prevents getting close to your penis, it must allow you to get water inside to keep you clean. It doesn’t take very long for a really bad smell to develop if you can’t clean up.
  6. Wear Comfortably. If you are in pain while you are caged, you and your key-holder will become tired of Enforced male chastity. The Getting A Good Fit section offers valuable advice.
  7. Provide reasonable security. More about that later.

There is a lot of mythology about chastity belts. Supposedly, men locked up their women before heading out to the Crusades. The fact is that there is no evidence of any chastity devices existing prior to the Victorian era. In that time, chastity belts and other devices were developed for “medical” reasons; namely to prevent excessive male masturbation. It was believed that erection and masturbation by boys would damage their minds and promote insanity. Female chastity devices have never been very successful. The myths would have us believe that men of yore locked up their women to prevent them from bearing bastards. The fact is that any attempt to block the vagina also blocks its ability to keep itself clean. Fungal infections and worse occur frequently. Fortunately, we males don’t have that problem and can be safely locked up for extensive long periods of time.

See Post on Chastity – Myth or Fact

Security

A common fantasy is that you are locked in an escape-proof device and will never be able to free your penis or stimulate it without your key-holder’s permission. A decade ago the most popular male chastity pass time was to defeat the latest devices. This is an expensive hobby since high end chastity devices can run hundreds of dollars. Virtually all of these “escape artists” were single men who locked themselves up. There were relatively few couples practicing male chastity in the pan community.

Chastity in the gay BDSM community has been more commonly used and in the 1960’s and 70’s these devices were more common in such specialty leather and fetish stores, such as Mr – S – Leather and Eagle Leather. These days the devices are more readily available both online and at many adult and fetish outlets. In Brisbane Spunk’d is one such outlet that has these devices both in store and online. It is a common practice that within many gay D/s dynamics that the submissive (also may be referred to as the slave or boy) experienced being caged, as a part of his training. This generally  meant he could only be allowed to cum, with the permission of the key-holder. 

This wasn’t just an occurrence in the male to male (gay) D/s this was also common in other BDSM relationships with a female lead role as a Dominatrix or Mistress.

Just as the internet became such an essential aspect of our daily lives, it played a role in BDSM – Including the D/s and M/s relationships. It is now possible to have a key-holder across the other side of the country or the world, who would give you permission to release yourself. As technology developed and demand changed chastity devices also evolved from just being available in metal to also being available in plastics and now silicone. The result of this advance has meant that the locked boy could have the device on for longer periods, and whilst in transit, such as going through airport security. 

 There are instances that I am aware of where Master and boy reside in different parts of the globe for work reasons, and they have found the use of Chastity and gaining such permission for release has strengthened both their trust and the dynamics behind their power exchange relationship. This strengthening some have reported has alleviated some of the stresses between the distances between the individuals. 

Below is a range of male chastity devices currently on the market, it is a small selection compared to what is available. 

The reason escape-proof devices are so elusive is that male sexual anatomy is surprisingly adaptable.  The human penis has no bone. Other mammals have penile bones that support the penis during intercourse. The human penis is essentially an inflatable toy. When not aroused the penis is an extremely flexible little tube. It’s flaccid. As such, it can be compressed, stretched, bent, and twisted. Since the purpose of enforced chastity is to keep that little guy in the flaccid state, any device must be designed to prevent it from using that very flexibility to defeat it.

A completely normal penis can shrink down to less than an inch in length. Since any cage or tube needs a gap that will allow the scrotum to hang below the cage, this tiny guy can be encouraged to escape through that gap. Once out, it can enjoy itself without permission or supervision.

To prevent this, some devices have blunt pins on the body end of the cage that are supposed to cause pain if extraction is attempted. Pins can be quite long and cause serious discomfort for a naughty boy. Some are even sharpened. This won’t completely prevent escape, but it will discourage it. There is a problem: each time the little guy tries to get hard its diameter increases. If there is an anti-pullout pin, that pin will dig painfully into the shaft. You might be thinking, “Well isn’t that the point?” Not completely. Every male has involuntary erections in his sleep. So, if you don’t enjoy being awakened a couple of times a night by a painful jab in your penis, you will find the anti-pullout pins unbearable.

Back in the day of escape artist play, several companies around the world made full male chastity belts. These belts effectively prevented any possibility of escape. However, the belts are made of metal and must be sized for each wearer. If the male gains or loses weight, the belt will no longer fit. These belts are expensive too and prevent a full range of motion. For most of us they are simply impractical.

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For the rest of us who can’t wear full belts, we need to cooperate with our key-holders. Obviously, any practical device has the potential of escape. How much potential is a trade between comfort and security. Since we are asking or consenting to be locked up, we should have the self control to not attempt escape. Those of us who are locked 24/7 need the ability to enjoy uninterrupted sleep and to go about our daily business while remaining caged. The trade off is that we have to not attempt escape.

In a D/s situation the submissive should be wanting to please his Dominant It was our idea, we should be able to do that. Right? On the other hand, we also want to feel that we are securely locked up and that our key-holders truly own our cocks. I know that I can’t easily escape my cage and I am pretty sure that if I do, I won’t be able to get it back in so my transgression will be noticed. I don’t want to think about what would happen if it is discovered that the cage went on an independent field trip. That is sufficient deterrent for me.

I wondered if I secretly unlocked myself because I wanted to play with someone, would there be visual evidence. It turns out there is. I was out of my cage for almost six days and It would be completely obvious to anyone who looked that I wear a device. It’s just like the mark left when the wedding ring is removed. Enough said.

Comfort

Let’s face it, our fantasies never consider the comfort of our confinement. However, spend thirty minutes in an uncomfortable device and you will see that comfort jumps to the top of the priority list. Having rigid steel or plastic enclosing our genitals is a comfort challenge. Sensitive skin can easily be pinched, scratched and bruised. Imagine sitting at your desk while your cage is cutting into your little penis. Very distracting to say the least.

More times then not, when you experience discomfort that turns to pain you will be begging for release in no time.

The original author at male chasitity journal has set up a page on how to get a good fit, I suggest you follow that link as it will help getting things right – Getting A Good Fit

A boy who is both secure and reasonably comfortable will be able to be caged for a longer period, and will not be concerned about disappointing his Dominant to have the device removed before the desired timeframe. You submit to please your Dominant, and when you do not meet such expectations (weather actual or self perceived) it can cause you anguish. However when you are experiencing the wrong sort of pain or discomfort, it is essential to speak up and communicate this, as your Dominant wants to know this so adjustments can be made. Generally your training and enjoyment is just as important to him, as it is to you. Remember your submission is your gift to him, and he is the protector of both your submission and trust. 

There are many designs for chastity devices; as illustrated in the pictures throughout this article. While you may want to select yours based on appearance and apparent security, the first consideration has to be fit. You will not be able to wear a badly fitting device. It’s that simple.

There are many designs for chastity devices; as illustrated in the pictures throughout this article.  While you may want to select yours based on appearance and apparent security, the first consideration has to be fit. You will not be able to wear a badly fitting device. It’s that simple.

A good fit is a very good start. Next, consider what you wear with your device. Most of the good chastity devices are virtually invisible under clothing. Generally no one can tell when a guy is caged. However, invisibility is only one factor. The second is support. We are all built differently and how we and our key-holder’s cage work together will determine how comfortable we are when wearing clothes. Your jocks can spell the difference between a comfortable day and a miserable one.  I personally like either briefs or jockstraps, I have found in the limited use of a cage jock straps work best for me and I can carry out all daily functions. However the source of this article suggests the following:

I like briefs and have been wearing Ex-Officio briefs for years. However, with my cage on, they just didn’t provide the support and cushioning I need to get through my day pain free. By chance I discovered Wearever men’s incontinence underwear. These are very normal looking briefs that have some padding in the front and down through the crotch. They even have a fly. It turns out that the combination of the way the brief is made and the padding provides a nice resting place for my key-holder’s toy. I can sit, walk, run, and move about without any discomfort. The underwear looks fine so that even if I am seen in it, no one would guess there is anything going on. An added benefit is that the padding further hides any edges of my cage from showing through my pants, even tight jeans. The padding is also treated to kill any odours, so if I drip, which sometimes happens after I pee, there is no trace.

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While the primary objective of enforced male chastity may be transfer of ownership and control of your penis to your key-holder, just as important is to be able to safely and comfortably wear their cage for as long as yoy like. If you are uncomfortable, you won’t be able to make this dream come true. Communication with your key holder is essential.

Generally as a university graduate I never refer to wikipedia, however in this instance I am going to make an exemption and provide a link for some additional reading:

Orgasm Control

Glossary:

Enforced Chastity:

Enforced chastity is surrendering sexual control to another. Most typically, a male surrenders his ability to orgasm to another. Frequently, a chastity device is secured to the male’s penis to prevent erection and orgasm.

Keyholder:

The person who retains control of the male’s penis in enforced male chastity. The term keyholder refers to holding the key that locks a chastity device

Enforced Male Chastity:

Control of a male’s penis, usually with a device. Masturbation, sex, orgasm, and erections are controlled by the key-holder.

Edging (edge play):

Edging is bringing someone right up to the edge of orgasm and stopping the stimulation before he ejaculates, this can be used in milking or adding stimulation to keep the locked boy wanting more. See further reading: Orgasm Control

Top:

A top is the dominant partner in a BDSM power exchange.

SOURCE:

https://www.malechastityjournal.com/living-with-chastity/security/

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