Glamping Part III – The BBQ

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So my final instalment of Glamping at Wivenhoe Dam.

On the final day at Camp It, we were delivered the Lunch BBQ – BootCo. boys were there on hand to do such fun. So in famous style I decided to wear my pup hood, jock strap and an apron. In my real life I am a qualified chef so cooking for 100 or so hungry, happy camper boys was going to be an easy task, and it was, before all the snags were eaten I had the BBQ all cleaned up and packed away.

Anyway cooking in barely anything was great, especially as it was hot, and the pup really did enjoy his camping adventure, with SM-Leather boy and his BootCo. Mates – Hazy and Maximus. And wearing very little got attention not just from the boys at camp it, but also the camp wardens wife, who was amazed to see a guy in almost nothing cooking a BBQ, wearing a pup hood.

IMG_2910Had a pawsome time at Camp It and; I so hope that I have the opportunity to cook again at the next Camp it. I am happy to say that Boot Co has been asked to do it again, and hopefully I will be in attendance at the next Camp It event, I am considering cooking in just an Apron and my hood.

Or just the hood.

The BBQ adventure helped raise $530 for Boot Co. Monies that the organisation raises is put back into the local community throughout the Boot Co Grants Program, last year (2013) Boot Co. By way of donation granted. $6100 back to the QLD LGBTIQ community and the IMG_2927committee is planing to donate by way of the grant program a further $6000 for 2014 and through our other mechanisms  $500.00 to community our community.

Hope u you all enjoy the pics of my Glamping adventure and hope to meet many new friends at the next Camp it and also get to know my Boot Co. Brothers that little more as we shared a really amazing experience.

And in Famous Boot Co. Style – SM -LeatherBoy, Hazy and Maxiums finished off the camping experience with more demonstrations on what you can do with rope.  Below is the Camp It Gallery.



Caring for your Human Pup

© The content of this guide was written by Nate R., aka azure_chaos except for where credit has been attributed. I did research the subject on the Internet including forums and websites but the writing with in is all my own work; therefore any similarity to the work of others is purely co-incidental.

So as I was exploring Pup Play I found this guild extremely useful. No part of this is my own work, and the author mention in the copyright notice above is solely responsible for the work contained in this post I have provided link enabling you to go and view the original work I have not altered it in anyway or form.

Message from Leather Pup:

I encourage you to use this as a guide as no rule fits all dynamics, for example the author writes about toileting your human pup, I personally come out of pup-head-space to use the toilet. Use this work to start exploring pup play and then allow your journey to flourish as you explore your inner K9 spirit.

I took what I thought was right for me, and then added to my pup self as I learned and grew into the human pup I am today. Keep in mind as I grow and learn and follow my journey ideas, and expression may change, but many of the foundations talked about in this article will remain the same.

Source: Caring for your Human Pup




© The content of this guide was written by Nate R., aka azure_chaos except for where credit has been attributed. I did research the subject on the Internet including forums and websites but the writing with in is all my own work; therefore any similarity to the work of others is purely co-incidental.





1.1 The Human-Pup


There are different kinds of human-pup, and the kind you are looking to have can have an effect on how you look after them. Some pups are happy to have the mindset of a pup, eager to please, affectionate, companionable, etc while still walking on two legs, talking and doing human-type things such as work. There is nothing wrong with that, however you and your pup approach your play is right for you both and that is what counts. However, this guide is concerned with a different kind, the kind of human-pups who want to embrace the whole puppy-mindset: on all fours; no human speech; no human action; to only act, communicate, and be as a pup.


Pups can be male, female or even transgender. Although it does appear that this type of play be related more to gay males as pup and owner, it is not their exclusive domain and there is no reason why pup and/or owner can’t be a straight or female. Diversity is what makes the world goes around and that is why this guide tries to remain gender free. Although, it is worth remembering that, your pups may act slightly differently depending on their gender.


You may be wondering what your pup or potential pup gets out of this kind of play. Well, it can be different things to different pups. Research seems to indicate a general consensus that it is a very mentally freeing position to be in. The mind is taken back to basic levels, you don’t need to give deep thought to anything and you have no responsibility except to please your owner(s). The pup eats, drinks, sleeps, plays, sniffs and relieves themselves, and then starts all over again. There is no bigger picture for a pup, and the world that exists to them is limited to their environment. It’s relaxing!


Not all pups go so deep into pupspace that they loose all human thought/sense but some can and do go so deep that they will act only on pup instinct. There are times, especially in public, that you have to be careful what commands you give to your pup. In this deep mindset your pup won’t understand humour or a joke, if you tell your pup to “get him” the chances are…your pup will! So, watch what you say in jest because your pup may take you all too seriously.


What does your pup want from you and from their pupspace? Different pups want different things when they are in pupspace. Most just want the freedom to be able to be down on all fours and to know that you won’t think less of them for it. For some it is part of their service to you, as their Dominant. Generally speaking though, pups simply want to be fed like a pup, fussed over like a pup and played with like one, quite often an owner doesn’t need to do much more than pet them and set their food/drink out. Sometimes they’ll make their own mischief around the house and then come and happily curl up at their owner’s feet.


Sexually orientated play can be one of the things that differ greatly between pups. And it is very important that you and your pup are on the same page from the very beginning with this matter. Some want sexual contact, others don’t want any at all, some are happy to sniff Master’s crotch but want little beyond that, some only want sexual contact with other human-pups. This can manifest in simple ‘humping’ or in actual mounting of other pups (especially if your pup is more dominant) if your pup has a need to breed. Again, it can’t be reiterated enough; this is something that you need to discuss before you play. This guide is not going to deal with the sexual side of some people’s pup play.


1.2 Pup Vs Dog


This guide continually refers to pups, but in reality, there are those who consider themselves to be human-dogs. What’s the difference? Well, mostly it’s just in the way the individual feels. A general feeling exists that pups are more playful and mischievous, but that said, there are dogs who never lose those traits, while they are more mature and settled. What pup vs dog *isn’t* determined by is the human age of your pup/dog: a human-pup can be in their 40s, 50s and so on and still be a pup, while a human-dog can be in their 20s. It’s much more about mindset and self-image than a numerical value. Dogs seem more likely to worry about dominance, protecting/looking after the pack and territory than pups are.


1.3 Breeds


Most pups have a breed in their mind of what they are when they’re in pup-mode. Sometimes it will fit their physical image (for colouring etc) other times it will be purely based on personality. With so many breeds of real dog out there, it can be quite an insight into your human-pup to know which breed they see themselves as compared to what you, as their owner, see them as. It can be a good task to set them when in human mode to identify their breed and write a short piece about them.


1.4 Your Pup’s Name


Your pup might already have a name when he or she comes to you, but then again they might not. If your pup is new to puppy play, or even if they are not, then they may look to you to help them come up with a name. Some strays prefer to wait until they meet someone they want as an owner and let them choose their name. This is both an honour for you and a sign they both trust and respect your input, it also usually shows they expect to be with you for the long haul.


A pup’s name can usually give a little insight into their personality either as a pup, human or even both. It should be given some thought, a good resource to use is a guide to dog’s names like this one (others do exist out there, so if you don’t find what you’re looking for there then do a google search), in order to help you come up with something, but don’t be afraid to be creative and original.


1.5 24/7 Human-pup?


Some pups dream and fantasise about being able to be in pupmode 24/7 and there are owners who equally dream about being able to keep them there. Indeed, in an ideal world you could wave a magic wand or drink a potion and be a real pup. But this is real life and unfortunately, it doesn’t work like that.


While it would be nice to spend as much time as possible on all fours, it’s not actually practical to spend 24/7 in such a role; physically and psychologically. The human body wasn’t built to be in that position for long periods and so it can take a real toll on joints, muscles and the spine, even when protection (e.g. kneepads etc) is worn. Also, because we aren’t adapted to being in that position, the body is unable to move fast enough to get enough exercise, calories can’t be burned off as needed and so weight gain is likely (unless you’re lucky enough to be able to take your pup on 5 mile hikes through secluded forest). While some owners like chubby or flabby pups, others do not.


One issue that could also arise is communication, if the human-pup was unwell. If there’s something wrong, your pup needs to be able to tell you about it (the same applies for mental health as it does for physical). If your pup does become sick, as does happen, then they need to go to the doctor and not the vet (although it’s fun to jest about taking your pup to the vet), so it is essential that they are able to function as a human in human society.


People love their pets, it’s true, but a human-pup can be expensive to keep and if you were to do that 24/7, you would need to be very strong financially. But aside from that, your pup has a human side that is part of what attracted you to them in the first place, if they were to become a pup 24/7 you would become their world and they would lose the very things that attracted you to them in the first place. They might be a pup in spirit; but they are also humans, and humans have to have psychological and social needs met, interacting with friends, family, work, hobbies, etc.


So, yes, 24/7 is a fantasy and it really should remain in fantasy. A human needs to spend time on their feet each day, getting some exercise and communicating normally to remain a healthy human. You can’t have a healthy pup if you first don’t have a healthy human.


1.6 Switching From Human To Puppy & Vice Versa


It is useful, before play, to agree a way to switch from or into pupspace. This can be using a verbal command, a designated word, or action. A common technique that seems to be used is the use of names as a distinction. When called by their real name it signals that the pup is to come back to their human self, when their owner calls them by their pup name it sends them down into pupspace, onto all fours. This can work well, as it has a clear distinction between the person as a human and as a pup. Whereas using a designated word can be complicated and confusing, you first have to find a word that you wouldn’t ordinarily use in daily life, and that saying it in front of other people won’t get you looked at in a funny way. Using names can be useful if you get a sudden unexpected visitor.


“Put the kettle on, Rob.” Called from the front door, is a clear sign that you have a visitor and that pup needs to come back to human and get clothes on.


Another trigger could be something physical, that when clothes are off you’re pup and when they’re on your human. This brings its own complications of course, for example when taking a bath/shower or just general non-pup play. Variations of this include: when the tail goes in; when the collar goes on; when the hood goes on, etc.


As well as the owner needing a command to trigger the pup, the pup should also have their own way of communicating to their owner that they need to come out of pupspace (some may need help). This is where it’s necessary for the pup to have a pre-agreed action, to avoid guesswork. It could be that they bring their owner something, E.G. a sock, or they sit in a certain way/place. It’s the equivalent of a pup’s safeword and is something that you and your pup will need to decide before you play.


1.7 Communication, Commands and Training


Some breeds are more intelligent and obedient than others; there are also dominant and submissive human-pups. It’s likely that your new pup will already have their own personality and you will have to learn this and how best to interact with them. The training can depend a lot on the personality of your particular pup, but in general, as with real dogs, human-pups learn by association. They might not always understand what you’re asking them to do just as you will not always be able to tell what they want. You both have to learn the other person’s ‘language’ and get to know each other.


Don’t assume that someone has already trained your pup in the way you want him or her to behave; start at the beginning. Actions will be associated with commands, just as objects will be associated with actions/events. If every time you take your pup for a walk you fasten a leash to his or her collar, then the pup will learn that when you reach for the leash it’s time to go for a walk.


If when you tell your pup to sit and you point to the floor, they look at you like they don’t know what you want, repeat the command and push down on their rear to put them in the sit position. They will learn what “sit” and the point means so eventually you may only need to point to get them to sit. Some dogs may take longer to learn the command you want them to respond to, be patient, use rewards and treats as incentive and they will eventually learn. Being able to respond to an action independently of the verbal command can be especially useful in noisy environments.


You may wish to use ‘non-standard’ language, (e.g. rather than “sit” you might want to use “rest”) related word, unrelated word or even the command in a foreign language. This can form an individual bond between you and your pup, they learn to relate to you differently to previous owners and also it can stretch their mind: as they can’t fall back on their human understanding of the language and must learn to understand you. This can be both fun and challenging for owner and pup alike.


Be consistent, say what you mean and mean what you say. If you are teaching the pup to respond to sit, don’t use a different word and expect them to respond how you want. All that you will succeed in doing is confusing them. The same applies if there is more than one person in your household; make sure that everyone uses the same commands.


Make sure you know what response you want for each command before you start because if you don’t know, then how can you expect your pup to?


Do NOT use electric shock collars on your human-pups neck, human physiology is different from a dogs and electricity applied to a human neck is not safe. If you want to use this form of training then you could try using the collar around their thigh. Although, to be honest this kind of training is usually inconsistent depending on your pup’s personality and has to be administered just right to be effective. It is no substitute for getting to know your pup and training them verbally, hands on and with patience.


Training can be fun and light-hearted or it can be more in-depth, serious and time consuming. It all depends what you want/expect from your pup as well as the kind of pup you own.


The flipside of training them to understand them is that you must also learn your pup’s body language and reactions. They can’t (or shouldn’t) suddenly come out and verbally tell you if they want/need something when they are in puppy headspace. Some pups of course have trouble shedding their human characteristics, such as speech. If you and your pup both want them to be as a pup then they must shed human speech during play too.


If your pup is pawing at the ground, you could well stand and scratch your head wondering what they want. You can ask them, but don’t expect them to answer you. Phrase your question so that they can show you, but without ‘telling’ you. “What do you want, pup? Do you want the garden? Do you want food?” Give enough time between each and watch their physical reaction; an enthusiastic tail wag will likely give you an affirmative answer, while simply looking at you, whining or continuing to paw the ground will tell you to try again. You could also try, “Show me?” If they take you to the back door, they want the garden, if they take you to the fridge/kitchen they want food…so on. [This subject is also looked at further in 3.5 Puppy Language]


1.8 Rewards and Punishment


This will vary depending on the kind of pup you’re dealing with.


Treats work well as rewards, but really most pups will respond equally well to being petted, fussed and praised verbally. Reward can be all in the pleased tone of voice that you use with the pup. If you want to give a treat this will also depend on your pup’s health: diabetes; lactose intolerance; allergies; and, high cholesterol etc, can all affect the kind of treat that is appropriate for your pup. This is where it is important to talk things through thoroughly on a human level with your pup before they go into pup mindset. Some suggested treats are: chocolate buttons, smarties, and chocolate-covered animal cookies. As it says above, you will need to find out from your pup what is and isn’t appropriate to use as a treat.


Punishment is a difficult subject when it comes to pups. Generally, your pup will be eager to please, and knowing that they’ve disappointed their owner will usually be enough to punish them. Verbal chastisement can work well, as can alone time. You should avoid physical punishment with your pup unless other methods fail, and then at the very most a rolled up newspaper once on the rear should be the limit. This alone can cause a yelp and your pup to cower in guilt.


Even if you have a BDSM relationship with your pup when they are in human mode, you should not punish them using S&M techniques when they are in pupspace; this can cause damage to their headspace, trust and even emotionally. Again, it’s useful to agree limits before playing. Some forms of punishment may not be appropriate for your pup, and just as you have to tailor the treats you give, you may also have to individualise the punishments. For example, if your pup has a phobia of isolation and/or abandonment, the alone time would be a cruel and damaging punishment. If an owner has previously struck your pup on a level that is abusive, then a smack with a newspaper may be all it takes to send your beloved pup into a panic. This panic might manifest in cowering and shaking, hyperventilation, running away from you or even attacking you.


As previously said in another section, do NOT use electric shock collars on your human-pups neck, human physiology is different from a dog’s and electricity applied to a human neck is not safe. If you want to use this form of training or punishment then you could try using the collar around their thigh.


The key, as always, is to get to know your pup and human equally before starting to play.



2. Biological Needs


2.1 Feeding Your Pup


Under no circumstances should you feed your human-pup real dog food, it is not fit for human consumption. They need human food and if it’s the only way they eat then they need a good healthy and balanced diet. You can easily make their human food ‘look’ like dog food, but remember to cover all food groups. If your pup has human eating habits, but you’re looking for something as part of your play to help with the illusion, a couple of suggestions is to use a dry cereal such as Cheerios or something sloppy like canned stew also putting almost anything through the blender can leave it looking like dog food. Be sure to let your pup have access to plenty of water, it can be thirsty work running round.


Feeding and watering your pup from a bowl on the floor can be an important part of their mindset. It bears commenting that there needs to be separate bowls for the two. At first glance, you might think any old dog bowl will do, either that or you’ll find yourself standing in the pet aisle or store and staring at the bowls with a very confused look on your face.


So, how do you know what’s the right bowl for your pup? Both bowls need to be big enough for your pup to fit their head in. You can measure from their chin to the top of their head and add a couple of inches or if they have a high threshold for embarrassment take them to the store and see which they can fit their head in comfortably. Remember they have to be able to open and close their mouth as well. While a drinking bowl can be deep, a food bowl needs to be shallow enough that they can get to the food at the very bottom of the bowl; for this reason it’s recommended that the sides be no deeper than the distance between chin and neck added to the distance the bottom of the nose protrudes. However, it’s worth keeping in mind that your pup may find it easier to eat from a plate on the floor.


Whether you prefer plastic, stainless steel or a pot bowl is entirely a personal preference between you and your pup, but remember that plastic bowls are chewable.


2.2 Your Pup’s Toilet Needs


Your pup needs to go to the toilet – Fact! How you do this though is very much dependent on the two of you. There are a few options available to you on how you approach this.

* Litter Tray

* Newspaper

* Absorbent training floor pads (training pads example)/ Pampers Change Mats

* In the shower base – only for peeing

* Garden – this is only practical if you have a very secluded garden, but very authentic and great for the mindset if you’re able to do it

* Toilet – may involve coming out of pupspace or the owner backing the pup over the toilet while still on all fours – not very practical at all.


Of course, if a pup is deep in pup headspace they don’t really care where they go, you might need to train your pup to use your preferred method. Your pup needing to urinate and needing to defecate can be two very different things and you may wish to have different strategies for each: while you might not mind your pup peeing on paper, litter tray or absorbent mat, you may well not want to have to deal with them pooping. If your pup stays in pupspace to defecate then you will have to clean them up (baby wipes and latex gloves are essential here).


If the idea totally squicks either/both pup and owner(s), then you could have an arrangement, whereby the pup comes out of headspace to use the bathroom.


2.3 Health


Your pup’s health is very important, especially if they have an existing condition that requires care. All kinds of problems can arise from being on all fours for too long, joint problems, circulation problems, back pain, muscle cramping and so on. If your pup stays in pupspace for more than 8 hours at a time you need to have a way for them to communicate with you if they are unwell.


As well as the knees suffering from constant use, the wrists can also suffer, strapping them up can provide much needed reinforcement if your pup has a weakness in them or perhaps doesn’t have much muscle mass. Make sure that your pup gets to rest them frequently by lying down.


Remember that your human-pup doesn’t have fur like their canine counterparts, and being thinner skinned they’ll feel the cold more readily, especially if you keep them naked. It’s important then to make sure their environment is warm enough that they won’t catch a chill. If you find yourself needing to put on a sweater you should probably up the heating for your naked pup.


It’s important that your pup gets proper nutrition and exercise as a human in order to stay healthy. If they’re in Pupmode for more than a few hours, puppy stretches are a good way to alleviate most aches and pains that can arise on a temp basis. But, if they are in pupmode for a longer period then some time out each day is needed in human mode.


Your pup has human teeth, which are not as sturdy and resilient as canine teeth, so care is needed when playing games like tug-of-war with a toy etc.


Your pup is human, they really shouldn’t have a cold wet nose; if they do then they may be sick (or they’ve been sticking their head in the fridge/freezer).


Again, it cannot be reiterated enough, you should NOT use shock collars on your human-pup. They are designed for use on real dogs and a human’s physiology is very different from a real dog. If you want to use electric shock as part of your pup’s training then you could consider placing the collar around their thigh, but under NO circumstances should an electric shock be applied to a human neck. Electricity should stay below the waist for safety sake unless you know exactly what you’re doing. The health risks include cardiac arrest and seizure. If you’re going to use one of these collars on your pup’s thigh then first test it on your own.


2.4 Grooming


Your pup’s hygiene can be an important issue, especially if your pup is in the headspace for longer than 24 hours at a time. You will need to bath them daily and clean their teeth twice daily. Instead of this, it might be an idea that they come out of the zone in order to shower and take care of their personal hygiene, it would be a way of them exercising their muscles and then having a short while to converse and maybe reflect on the past day with you.


Of course, it could be that you enjoy the idea of washing your pup and getting all wet and wild in the tub as they spray you by shaking all the water off. It could provide lots of fun and amusement. Some pups love to be bathed and others not so much so.


Pup’s usually like to be petted and have their fur (hair) stroked, you could use fingers, a comb or a brush depending on how long their fur is. They also like to have behind their ears, under their chins or the back of their necks lightly scratched.


2.5 Sleeping


Being a pup is a hard work, all that chasing your tail and butterflies, not to mention sniffing and chewing. Lots of naps are in your pup’s future: at your feet, on the rug in front of the fire on your bed, on the sofa… your pup will more than likely flop down and snooze anywhere they please. If your pup will be spending much of their time sleeping on the floor then it’s a good idea to get them one of them large pillows, a duvet (thick quilt) or a beanbag for comfort – or you might just find them jumping onto the bed with you (of course they might do that anyway).





3.1 Equipment/Gear


3.1.1 Kneepads:

At the very least you will need a good pair of kneepads for your pup. These are easily found in DIY/Home Improvement stores. Don’t be afraid to try them to see which will be best for your pup, also you need to make your selection based on what kind of surface the pup will be on. Hard shelled can be the best for hard surfaces such as concrete, but they can slip on some surfaces like tiles or polished wood. The non-shelled kind are fine if your pup is only going to be on carpet or around the house and you can get some great gel cushioned ones now, which can be comfortable and better for your knees. Don’t think that because your pup is only going to be on a carpet and only for a couple of hours at a time, that they’ll be fine… humans really aren’t meant to be on their knees for that long and it will take its toll!


3.1.2 Muzzles/Mouth Bits:

If your pup is prone to forgetting themselves and talking, you may want to consider a mouth bit to help remind them that no talking is allowed while in pupspace. A muzzle can help reinforce pup’s headspace or can be used if you’re trying to train your pup out of bad habits like chewing/biting. Although, keep in mind that using them too long could actually impede the fun of the play. They would limit the ability to make communicative noises, eating, drinking, licking and other things such as carrying things in their mouth. They can be a good aid to training though and some pups like them while others hate them.


3.1.3 Hoods:

Many variations of hood exist, from plain leather bondage hoods, to elaborate full dog style heads. Some pups love these and find that they can really help with their headspace; and they can be useful if you want to keep your pup’s identity secret while out at a club or event. Other pups either don’t need them or can’t stand them. They can be big and bulky, hot and sweaty.


Research has revealed a couple of advantages to them: they can be very much a part of your pup’s self-identity; and apparently the small nostrils allow sniffing to bring smells in and the space seems to amplify the scent; they can make noise more prone to directional dampening (sounds are clear to the front but somewhat muffled to the side) some pup’s like to be able to have the sound of bipeds cut to background noise (can be a disadvantage for the owner), of course these can all vary depending on the design purchased.


There are also disadvantages to the hoods: Some owners like to see their cute pups face, it’s a very useful way of knowing how your pup is feeling, pup’s faces are very expressive; You can’t stroke their hair while they’re wearing one; they can get hot and sticky; unless you can get a perfect fit for your pup’s head they can be uncomfortable, and they can impede the pup’s ability to do the things that pups like to do, drink, eat, chew, carry stuff around.


They can be very expensive, so if you are going to go for a hood, make sure that you get one that fits properly and will allow your pup to have as much facial movement as possible.


3.1.4 Full rubber/PVC suits:

This is another of those issues that is a personal preference to you and your pup. Some love them, some hate them, some don’t really care either way. They can get hot and sweaty, but if you’re in a cold environment where naked or putting on the heating (in public, at an event or out in the woods) isn’t possible or if your pup is shy about their body, then this can be a good idea. They can be expensive and getting a good fitting one is essential, depending on how long your pup is going to spend wearing it you might even need to consider getting two. These suits seem to have a place but for general round the house most appear to prefer skin for the ability to have physical contact with their owners. There’s not much fun in being petted when there’s a layer of rubber/PVC/latex between your owner’s skin and yours. And of course there are also the impracticalities when it comes to the pup doing their business.


3.1.5 “Paws” and mitts:

These are a great way of giving your pup a more canine feeling/image. They can be especially useful if your pup tends to forget and use their human hands. Mitts can really add to the illusion of paws both physically and psychologically, as your pup becomes truly dependent on you. As with the other equipment, love them, hate them, couldn’t care less either way about them, it’s a personal choice for you and your pup. If you do get them for your pup, make sure they have enough room to flex their hands inside them, this can prevent hand and forearm cramp not to mention positional nerve, tendon or joint damage.


Depending on the way your pup uses their hands to walk on, you may need to consider extra padding. This is especially true if your pup walks on their knuckles (hands in fists and walking on the flat part that you would punch someone with). If your pup uses their palms or the underside of the fist (where the fingertips are folded in) you should consider strapping their wrists. Your pup should take regular breaks from putting weight on their hands in this way, as they were not designed for this sort of action.


The back paws of a pup are especially vulnerable to catching on things or being stomped on by bipeds, and along with the knocks the knees take the shins can suffer too, shin-pads that are used by football/soccer players can help with the shins, while the pads used in some martial arts can be used to protect the tops of the feet. Large padded mitts or socks could have benefits in protecting the feet.


3.1.6 Tails:

You might not be able to see it, but your pup will have a tail, of course in some breeds it’s been docked, but they’re there none-the-less. Your pup will want to wag theirs. They might be content to wiggle their butt in an imitation of wagging a tail, or they may want an actual tail to wag. Most pups would love to have a tail.


There are a couple of ways you can give your pup a tail:


1. An insertable tail on a butt plug. You can buy these off the internet and from some sex shops, along with pony or even piggy tails. From what I’ve seen there are two types:


  • Rigid latex or silicone shaped like a perked up tail (that can be twisted round so that it’s pointing downwards to show when your pup is unhappy or apologetic)
  • Hair. Theoretically, you should be able to make your own using a plug and some false hair (from wigs or the like).
  • Depending on your pup’s breed, and what you both want aesthetically, these two options are fairly good even if they can be expensive. The hair tail has the advantage that it is swishy and can vary in length, where the rigid one can be turned to suit the mood (although in reality dogs rarely stop to turn the tail round).


The disadvantages of an insertable tail: it has to be taken out for the pup to do their business and if the pup is wearing mitts then this is down to the owner; prolonged wearing of a butt plug can cause intestinal discomfort/a build up of trapped wind/gas that can be painful for the pup; irritation of the anus; If your pup is male the tail will have to come out for breeding (should both be into that); also… sneezing while wearing one can run the risk of shooting it across the room. Advantages: the pup can feel it’s presence like it’s an actual extension of self; it can keep the pup open if pup and owner are into sexual play while in pupmode; it can be sexually stimulating to the pup (which can be a disadvantage if pup doesn’t like sex mixed in with their pup play).


2. A strap on tail. This speaks for itself; a harness or belt is worn with a tail attached to it so that it sits in the correct position. These could probably be made for cheaper than they could be bought, using wig hair, etc. The advantage is that it leaves the anus free for the pup doing their business or to be mounted; it’s more comfortable and can be worn indefinitely without the need for a break from it; and, it can be placed in a more realistic position. The disadvantages: the tail is not a part of the body and so the pup might not feel properly connected to it even if they can wag it; if the harness is not very secure then it could slip from position and you would have to keep repositioning it; and, the harness might cause chaffing. There is no direct sexual stimulation from this kind of tail, and that could be an advantage or a disadvantage, depending on whether you and your pup are into sexual activities in pupmode.


3.1.7 Ears:

If you’re getting a puppy hood, they usually come with ears attached, but you could get your pup ears without the need for a hood if you wanted. The best way to do this would be to make a pair of ears suited to your pup’s breed and attach them to a headband; this way they could be floppy or pointy or somewhere in between. This can be a fun thing to do if you’re craft minded; and even if your not, putting ears on your pup could give you a giggle and make them a happy pup.


3.1.8 Harnesses:

If you’re lucky enough to have somewhere that you can take your pup out for walks, then you might want to consider using a harness rather than a collar for attaching a leash to; as this way you eliminate the chance of accidentally choking your pup. There are many different leather chest harnesses, available from sex stores, leather stores or BDSM equipment stores, which could easily be used in this capacity. Many dog owners prefer to use harnesses on their pets so this would not have any negative impact on authenticity.


3.1.9 Bowls:

Food and drink bowls have already been covered in section 2.1 Feeding your pup, but it’s worth mentioning here that a fun thing to do is to write your pup’s name on the bowls in permanent marker pen.


3.1.10 Toys:

Chew toys, squeaky toys, toys for playing fetch, toys to hide and toys to carry round in the mouth; they’re all something that you need to consider buying for your pup or you could find that your favourite boot gets chewed up and/or hidden. Pups like their toys, you can use real pup toys for added authenticity, rubber bones and the like, and smallish stuffed toys are also a favourite for either being mauled or carried around in the mouth. Remember though, as with real dogs, things that easily break off can be a chocking hazard.


3.2 Collars


This subject deserved it’s own separate section from the equipment. Collars are important in more way than one to a pup. They’re not just about emulating their canine cousins, although that is a part of it and it does contribute to the headspace of a pup. Collars are about ownership, they’re a symbol to others that the pup belongs to someone and is off limits. They’re also a symbol to the pup that they have a home, they’re not a stray and that they are loved and cherished. It’s hard to put into words how much a collar means to a pup, especially if they have been a collarless stray.


You may choose to buy an actual dog collar, or you might prefer to buy a collar that has been purposely made for a human to wear; the latter option can be padded for comfort since the human-pup doesn’t have the fur and thick skin to protect against chaffing. Either way, you need to measure your pup’s neck to get the right length of collar. You don’t want a collar that is too tight but you also don’t want one that is too loose. For comfort and safety, you should be able to put the collar on your pup and fit two fingers between the collar and their skin.


The width of the collar is entirely up to you, but remember, the pup needs to have full range of movement in their neck, they need to be able to eat, drink, look up at you, cock their heads and chase butterflies. For these reasons a thinner collar will be more suitable.


A nice touch is to add tags to the collar with the pup’s name and your phone number on the back.


As an owner or potential owner, you should know that if you see a pup with a collar, this signifies that the pup is owned and you should not approach the pup without first gaining the permission of their owner. This can be as much for your own protection as the pups. As most pups are suspicious of strangers they may well snap at you. It is bad etiquette to approach an owned pup in such a way; if you speak to their owner they will most likely give permission, but always check first.


It’s been said before and it will be said again, you should NOT use shock collars on your human-pup’s neck. They are designed for use on real dogs and a human’s physiology is very different from a real dog. If you want to use electric shock as part of your pups training then you could consider placing the collar around their thigh, but under no circumstances should an electric shock be applied to a human neck.


3.3 Microchips



It’s the age of technology, people are chipping their real pups, the rich are getting chipped with their credit card info so they don’t have to carry plastic, and influential diplomats, etc, are getting ID chipped in case of kidnapping, etc.


There doesn’t appear to be any health reason why a human-pup shouldn’t be micro-chipped. And the benefits could be seen in the pup’s psychology. It would be a way of saying to the pup that “this is permanent, I’m not going anywhere and you’re mine now.” A big buzz when it comes to headspace and security.


In general the microchip is about the size of the tip of a ballpoint pen and syringe-injectable. Once injected, it’s activated using an external scanner. The chip can be used to simply carry ID information or can be made trackable using GPS. While it should be no more painful than a vaccination or piercing cost may be a factor for consideration.


3.4 Chewing & Sniffing


Both of these are normal puppy behaviour you should probably get used to them.


Dogs operate more off their sense of smell than any of their other senses and the same can be said for most human-pups. So, if your pup comes up to you and sniffs at your crotch, or sniffs the butt of other human-pups, this is perfectly normal behaviour, they’re acquainting themselves with your scent, categorising you as friend, family, enemy or even mate. It’s not about being rude or sexual, it’s about identification. Pups like smells and they’ll sniff just about anything. Unfortunately, human’s sense of smell isn’t as strong as a real dog, but it can improve with use and you still have a distinctive smell to your pup.


Some pups chew more than others, it depends on their breed, personality and training. If you don’t like it then it’s up to you, as their owner, to train them not to do it. Training can consist of rewards and punishment, praise and admonishment, or even the use of a bit/muzzle. The best way to stop your pup from chewing the things they aren’t supposed to, is to give them their own toys that they can chew on happily. Remember that your pup has human teeth and tug of war games should only be gentle as the teeth can easily be damaged.


If you don’t want something chewed by your pup it’s best to keep it up out of their reach.


3.5 Puppy Language


Where much of puppy language can be awarded a stereotypical meaning, it’s important to remember that context is also important in making your interpretation. This section refers quite heavily to a page from wikipedia on the subject of real dog communication it can be found here!


Vocalised – Barks, Growls, Whimpers & Whines:


Human-pups tend to make similar noises as their canine cousins, but of course the human voice box isn’t designed to make them, so a pup will make the closest approximation of a real dog. The hardest of the noises would probably be the growl but some have real problems with barking.


There are many reasons why a pup barks: happy, excited, scared, for attention, warning to you that there is something wrong or a warning to someone else/other pup to back off. Figuring out which is which can be very difficult and that’s why it’s important to look at body language as well. What first appears to be an aggressive bark could be a playful or excited bark if the pup is wagging their tail at the same time. The pup might also bark in reply to other pups and/or real dogs barking.


As with barking there are many motivations behind a growl, usually it is a threat or warning of some kind but can be from irritation, aggression or fear. There are also playful growls. If you’re unsure which your pup is exhibiting then proceed with caution; if they’re frightened or feeling threatened they may strike out at you if you exacerbate that. Although, what you’re doing at the time and the pup’s body language will likely indicate what kind of growl it is.


Unlike the others, a whimper is unlikely to be playful and it certainly isn’t an aggressive vocalisation. These sounds are associated with something upsetting your pup, either they’re hurt, lonely, sad or it’s a cry for attention. These are all also true of the whine, but this sound can be associated with excitement and the greeting of other pups, depending on the tone and body language.


Howling usually occurs in response to a loud sound or a feeling of loneliness/neglect/abandonment or pain.


Non-Vocalised – Eyes (eyebrows), Head, Tail & Body:


The speed and size of a tail wag can be an indication of what the pup is thinking/feeling. A large fast wag is likely a happy, enthusiastic, excited wag especially where the wag is so pronounced the hips move with it. Where as, a small slow wag is uncertain; this is maybe not a kind you will see so often in human-pups but if you do then it could mean that the pup isn’t sure what to make of a situation/person/pup or doesn’t quite understand something.


Much as with human facial expressions, a puppy’s eyes/eyebrows can indicate various things: raised eyebrows suggest interest, lowered brows suggest confusion or mild anger, and one eyebrow up suggests bewilderment. Slitted eyes translate usually as suspicion or anger.


Pawing the ground usually indicates that the pup wants something, where they do it and the context in which it’s done, can tell you more about what that is. By the door means they want to be let out, by the food or water bowl means they’re hungry/thirsty, etc.


Shifting from paw to paw (usually the front paws) can indicate excitement, especially coupled with a wagging tail, or it could mean that your pup is trying to tell you something or get your attention. These latter two can also be associated with the lifting of a paw.


A tilt of the head can be interest or it can be bewilderment, again it comes down to context and the combination it has with the rest of the body language.


Yawns can be an indication of boredom or the need for sleep but it could also mean they’re stressed or want to be left alone. It is therefore important to take into consideration all the factors and indicators.


The best thing you can do is take time to learn your pup’s body and vocalised language, it will make your time together more enjoyable.


3.6 Furry Vs Smooth


This is very much a personal choice between you and your pup. There is no right or wrong for whether your pup should be defurred (shaved/waxed/electrolysised), it’s purely up to you. Some say smooth is sexiest, for both parties, others say that the tickle of fur is sexier. It’s totally a personal preference.


If you are going to defur: Waxing lasts longer, but can be messy and painful in the first instance; Shaving is the easiest method of defurring but regrowth can happen in just a couple of days and so requires frequent maintenance to keep the pup smooth, although the act of shaving your pup can be quite an act of bonding and trust, if you choose to shave your pup be aware that they’ll scratch themselves a fair bit as it regrows and you’ll need to apply lotion to ease it; Electrolysis is permanent hair removal, it can be expensive and take a few sessions, but if you are sure that you want your pup smooth and will never want them to grow fur then this can save lots of time and effort on the regular defurring.


3.7 Social Interactions, Pack and Hierarchy


As has been said before, pup’s vary greatly in most areas, and this is yet another one. Some pups are very happy just being with you, padding round your home with their toys etc. Some pups though, need to be able to play with other pups. Some owners find that getting together with other pup owners occasionally, and letting their pups play together does wonders for their pup’s mood and attitude.


As mentioned in 3.2 Collars, a pup that is wearing a collar is usually owned, as stray pups do not where collars, and the pup’s owner should be approached before attempting to approach the pup. The pup may be aggressive with strangers or afraid of them, aside from that it is just good etiquette. This doesn’t apply with other pups of course, who will likely approach and sniff at each other (and yes that includes their butts).


Not all real dogs are submissive and the same applies to human-pups. They need to exercise this dominance in some way, and since you as their owner are dominant to them, then the best way they can do this is to have other pups to play with. Of course, there are some pups who do not see their owner as dominant to them, so it is up to you to assert that or they’ll run rings around you.


Pups tend to think in terms of family or pack, and while some may consider their owner to be the pack alpha others do not, to some ‘owner’ is separate but still part of the pack, and occasionally the Alpha pup might even consider the owner to be subordinate.


Where an owner has more than one pup (or if they regularly meet with other owners and their pups) the pups will think of themselves as pack and this is an indication of their loyalty to each other. They may be happy to consider each other pack brothers or sisters, but sometimes they will organise into some kind of hierarchy. This usually depends on things such as level of dominance, strength, age, size, etc.


An Alpha is considered the top dog, the leader of the pack. They get to eat first and have the best food, best toy, if they want something that one of the other subordinates pups have then they take it. The Beta pup is the second in charge, may even be a bit smarter than the Alpha, they’ll be strong and occasionally challenge the Alpha to keep them on their toes, but they also are smart enough to know when to back off. The beta is the pup that’s in charge of the other pups, kind of like a big brother or sister; they’ll keep the rest in line and protect the less strong as well as protecting against outside forces. Some pups are more dominant and others are submissive, this usually shows when watching the way the pups interact with each other.


3.8 Fun & Games


From non-sexual to overtly sexual, there are many games you can play with your pup, depending on if you mix with other pups and owners or if it’s just you and your pup. Pups love to play games, they can be a great way to bond, train or increase your pups use of their olfactory sense.


* Fetch where something is thrown is fun but will get old quick as human-pups aren’t designed to move quickly on all fours. A variation is to place an object across the room from your pup and then tell them to fetch it. This can be great training for the stay, fetch/bring, give/drop commands; just be sure to teach your pup the rules first or you might get frustrated with them not ‘staying’ until the object is placed or running off with it once they have it.


* Find the owner, or owner’s item: If there is more than one biped at a get together and pup is in their headspace, you could blindfold the pup and have them find their owner from scent alone (there is a sexual version of this game but this guide isn’t aimed at that side of pup play). A variation on this is to have items that are new, freshly laundered or belong to friends, and an item that belongs to the owner (that hasn’t been washed since being worn), again with a blindfold and the pup has to pick out their owner’s item.


* Let your pup get the scent of something smelly and then hide it while they’re blindfolded, then have them try to find it. You can start off in a small area and then move to wider areas. A variation of this is to hide it without the pup knowing and then both of you going on a hunt for it together. This game of hunt the toy/item can be played with several pups and they get to compete against each other.


* Get down on your hands and knees and bark playfully at your pup, they’ll join in and probably end up licking your face.


* Light games of tug-of-war can be fun but remember your pup has human teeth and they’re not as robust as real dogs. This isn’t a good game to play with dominant pups as they think you are challenging them and will attempt to assert their dominance.


* Obstacle courses and agility. Your human-pup doesn’t have the same agility as a real dog, but with practice and games you could help them increase their speed and agility, while having fun. Start off small and be realistic, if you’re not sure if it will work try it yourself.


* If you’re in a position to take your pup out on a forest walk where you won’t be causing a public concern then this is a great way to get out and about and have some fun. Be sure to give your dog the protective gear where they need, thick kneepads with a hard shell are a must. And any dangly bits may require strapping/harnessing.


* Tummy rubs – self-explanatory, wriggly, wiggly, tail-wagging fun.


Games are a lot of fun, but don’t overplay with your pup, they don’t need constant stimulus to be happy and they need to rest. Playing too much can take the fun out of the game and lead the pup to becoming bored with the game.


3.9 Tips & Hints (some summary from above points)


* Always make sure your pup has plenty of water, they can’t ask you for a drink if they’re thirsty and being a pup can be thirsty work.

* Pups like to be petted, stroked, cuddled and fussed over. It might sound obvious but some people may feel hesitant about doing it to their pup.

* Your pup likes to play but they don’t have to always be active to be enjoying your company. They can just as happily curl up at your feet. In fact after a fair bit of play they’ll want to do this for a rest.

* There is no place for humiliation in pup play. Dogs do not feel humiliation. Human-pups may feel shame or they may feel sad if they have disappointed you, but they do not usually understand the concept of humiliation. Just as you wouldn’t humiliate a real dog, you shouldn’t humiliate your human-pup.

* Physical punishment beyond a light swat to the rump with a rolled up paper is abuse.

* Don’t pull their tail; pups really don’t like that.

* Pups like to be scratched behind the ears or at the back of the neck, but remember not to scratch too hard as they don’t have the thick fur real dogs have. Be aware of the length and sharpness of your nails.

* Pulling on a pups collar can choke them, be very careful; using a harness and leash for walks is a lot kinder.

* Chain, chocker collars sound fun and authentic but can be very dangerous.

* If you can’t tell what your pup wants/needs, ask them to show you, and then follow them where they lead.

* A pup that doesn’t get human exercise will become unhealthy.

* Learning your pup’s language can greatly improve both yours and your pup’s play experience.

* Teasing and tormenting your pup (e.g. with treats that are kept just out of reach) can be fun for you and maybe even play for the pup for a short time, but it gets old and before long your pup will just get annoyed at you.

* If you don’t want something to be chewed, keep it out of the way of your pup.

* If a real dog does it expect your human-pup to do it.

* If you wouldn’t do it to a real dog then talk to your human-pup before you do it to them.



4. Glossary/Terminology


Alpha – The most dominant pup in the family/pack.

BDSM – An acronym of Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, Sadism & Masochism which are kink-related activities that some people take part in.

Biped – A two legged animal, in this case, a human (as oppose to a human-pup)

Butterflies – Pretty, colourful things that need to be chased in the garden.

Canine Cousins – Real/biological dogs.

Cat/Kat – The enemy, set on world domination, they can have usefulness because of their intelligence, usually as lawyers and the like, but ultimately they are cunning and evil.

Dominant – The partner who takes the dominant role in a BDSM relationship. The one who’s in charge of the ‘pack’ (see also Alpha). [A person who is dominant in a BDSM relationship may still be a pup and not necessarily a dominant one.]

Electro-shock Collar – A device used for training real dogs that is NOT suitable for human-pups.

Grooming – Looking after your pups personal hygiene.

Headspace – The mindset of an individual; the way they think or feel.

Human-pup – A human who gets into the role and headspace of a pup. Same meaning applies to Human-dog.

Olfactory – pertains to the nose and sense of smell.

Owner – someone who owns a pup, this is used here to refer to a handler, caretaker, controller or any other human who has responsibility for a human-pup

Pack – The pup’s family; can be other human-pups, real pups and bipeds.

Pupmode – when the pup is actively in the role of a pup.

Pupspace – the mindset that a person goes into when they absorb themselves into puppy play as a pup.

Pup – A human-pup (for the purpose of this guide).

Safeword – A word that is used in BDSM play to signal that the submissive needs the scene to end. There can also be a slow word that says they don’t want it to stop but they either need a breather or the just need it to go slower.

Slave – A submissive who has gone the extra step of giving up all their usual rights to their Dominant partner/Master. Sometimes there will be a pre-agreed contract that designates reasonable limitations of the control the Dominant has.

Squirrels – The enemy, they’re more evil if they’re less cunning than cats, you’ve been warned.

Stray – An unowned pup, usually very hyperactive and annoying because they just want attention and someone to belong to, although they can go to the other extreme and be shy and unassuming.

Submissive – A person who, when in a relationship, gives themselves over to the rules and desires of the Dominant partner to serve/please them. A person who is submissive in a relationship is not necessarily submissive in life (or even as a pup). A submissive usually retains the right to say “no” in such a relationship unlike a slave.

Pup Play 102

How do I get started as a pup?
Comet MQL IntroGet on all fours and start barking! It is not always easy for a pup to get started with his puppy headspace. All pups are different, so what works for one may not work for others. The most useful thing may be to try and think like a dog thinks. Read puppy training guides, especially if you’ve not owned a dog, or haven’t in a long time, it will help give you some insight into how a dog would react to a situation.
When you see a ball, you want to chase it. When someone gives you a treat you wag your tail (wagging your butt is acceptable 🙂 ). Human speech doesn’t mean much to you, except maybe “good boy/girl.”
Human Speech needs to be taught – these can include commands and this will direct the human pup into a particular position. (I will explore these in a latter post) Basically the common one are similar to what you will teach a biological Pup;
these include:
In BDSM Pup Play there are also other commands and positions you will need to learn:
All Fours
Down Submission (Submit)
As a pup you will also need to learn your pup voice and non-verbal forms of communication.
Generally speaking there are very little worries when you are a puppy. You crave attention and will seek it however you can get it!
Remember though that pups don’t always have to chase balls! There is a special bond that can be found between Handler & pup just by putting your head in his lap while he gives you ear scratches.
You do not necessarily have to be on all fours to be in pup head-space. Many pups maintain a sort of pup headspace even when they are at work, in the car, or at the store. It is about keeping a carefree, joyful mentality. And growling at the occasional pussy cat. 😉
How do I get started as a Handler?
Mat and Scout For the most part, when you are handling your pup treat him how you would a biological puppy. Pat him, play with him, tell him he’s a good boy. There is no thing greater than having the joy and love you give your pup reflected back to you from a wagging tail and a lick on the cheek.
Remember though that you need to maintain dominance, by showing you are pack leader, or your pup will get out of control. Use positive reinforcement to train your pup. Giving attention to negative behavior will not work in your favor, because a pup only wants attention, and will see this as a game.
Some of the best guides for training are regular old puppy training guides you get from the pet shop. Make sure your pup tries to use his puppy mentality and not his human
(humans learn tricks too fast 😛 ).
Do keep in mind however that your human puppy is not the same as a biological one and cannot do all of the same things his counterpart can.
Should I give my human pup dog food?
This question comes up a lot from those starting to get into puppy play. Despite what you may have heard, animal dog food is not fit for human consumption. Besides not meeting the dietary requirements of humans, there are many components such as bone meal and animal byproducts in dog food that simply aren’t digestible by humans and could make your pup sick.
There are plenty of human foods that can serve as a substitute dog food. Cookies, crackers, anything bitesize your pup enjoys may be usable as treats. Cold canned beef stew is a perfect analog for wet dog food. Certain breakfast cereals look a lot like kibble (dry food). You can be creative and make your own food and treats.
Matt and Comet
Personally my favourite foods are spaghetti bolognese, Lamb shanks in a gravy and steak. If you are going to have your human pup eat from a dog bowl then you either allow them to use a knife and fork or cut their food up in bite size pieces… Communication is key here. As Human pups essentially are human the pup will find it difficult to eat from a bowl on the floor, the bowl would need to be raised on a chair or stool if you are going to have your pup eat on all fours, this is so the human digestive system can work as it is meant to, and prevent your human pup from chocking.
Remember as the handler: Safety first.
As stated above Pups need to learn commands, positions and forms of non-verbal communication, this is true as the handler you need to be able to teach your human pup commands, these can be in English or another language.  The basic commands and Beginner BDSM commands are listed above, but you may also which to teach your pup some tricks such as:
Roll Over
Play Dead
Remember teaching a human pup new tricks is similar to teaching a biological pup, both corrective actions and positive reinforcement is required. These are only some things you can do, use your imagination and creativity when training your pup.
As a handler you will also need to learn forms of non-verbal communication and hand gestures, and then you will need to teach them to your human pup.
There is a lot more to being a handler then many realize.
What is needed for puppy play?
For most, puppy play is primarily a headspace. It is about a pup mentality, where your world consists mainly of what’s within four feet of the ground. Puppy play is cheap and can be done with a minimum of gear. That said, there is some gear that helps maintain headspace.
Collars – A collar may be the most important part of gear for a pup. Besides providing a place to put a leash and a tag, wearing a collar helps immensely in putting a pup into the proper headspace. Unowned pups should not wear tags.
Kneepads – A more practical consideration than anything, a cheap pair of kneepads from home depot will help keep your pups knees from being chewed up and allow for longer play.
Paws/Mitts – Paws help keep a pups hands restrained, preventing them from being used like a humans and also serving to protect hands during play.
Hoods/Muzzles – A muzzle helps prevent a pup from using his human voice, and serves to make him look more dog like. Hoods look even more dog like (some are very realistic) and are usually less restrictive.
Toys – Every pup needs some good chew toys to chase. The best toys are soft, human teeth are not dog teeth. Hard toys like bones and rawhide shouldn’t be used. Rope toys are OK but should not be tugged on hard.
Bowls – A large dog bowl is best. A human pup’s snout isn’t as long as a real pup’s. Best way to measure is to stick your face in and see if it fits!

Pup Play 101

What is Human Pup Play?
Pup play is when one person takes on the role of a pup or dog and another takes that of the handler or trainer. The pup acts like their canine counterpart and the trainer, for the most part, handles the pup like he would a biological pup.

2uz5eogAnother form of pup play that is emerging is pup munches, pack play or pups@play.

  1.   Pup Munches are a community organised events where pups and handlers are invited to attend a social gathering. Munches can also be run at competitions or events, example IPC, Folsom and Boot Co. Pup night – Howl. Noting that pups may also attend BDSM munches that are also organised for the Local community, these events are arranged locally by SLPA, BLP, and clubs around the States, Germany, England, etc. A Munch is basically a casual social gathering open to the local community, these are advertised with in the community or via social media such as Fet Life or Face Book specific groups. A munch is a gathering for people both involved and interested in BDSM. Whist the primary purpose is to socialize, some will have announcements from local organisations, information and or demonstrations, some munches can be a meeting before a more formalised BDSM play party or event. Munches are designed to allow people to meet in a safe and socially acceptable place and also help those in the community whether they are staring their journeys or the more experienced to meet each other and to feel more comfortable with in the community, and to become better informed about BDSM practices.

  2. Pack play: is where there are a formalised pack setting with 3 or more pups and a handler. In this setting the pups may play with the handler or have their own private pack mosh.Depending on the pack rules this may or may not be sexual in nature.

  3. Pups@play: I describe this when either a couple of pups (2) or a group of pups come together and have a play, there may be no handlers present and this is either a mosh or includes sexual play between the pups.

It’s not necessarily a sexual play, though it can be. For many it serves as a release of the animal part of them.

It is NOT bestiality: real animals are NOT involved.

Why do puppy play?

Because it’s fun! More to the point it gives the pup an opportunity to shed off their human personality and take on the simple, carefree existence of a pup. Puppies like and get lots of attention. They also however receive some control from their Handler, while still expressing their animal instincts and desires.

The Handler also revives benefit from puppy play. Pups are always happy to see you and play fetch with you. They serve as a companion and friend. The Handler has the opportunity to establish dominance through training, while still allowing the pup some freedom, especially when playing.

What about humiliation?

For many pups, puppy play is not about humiliation. This does not mean they may not also enjoy humiliation, or that humiliation play is bad, but it tends not to be a part of puppy play. In many ways puppy play is much like training a biological pup. You wouldn’t hit, kick, or abuse a new puppy to train him. Instead a firm but gentle approach is taken to training and discipline. Positive reinforcement is key; ‘good boy’ is spoken much more often than ‘naughty pup’ in puppy play.

What is pup headspace?

Headspace is hard to describe. It’s the mental state you put on when you are doing puppy play. Dogs live in the moment, they do not think about the past or present. They act on instinct rather than rationality. Dogs are pack animals and seek attention from the other members of the pack. They look to the other dogs for leadership and guidance, and will assert their own if they do not find it. Maintaining headspace is about putting aside the human thoughts and desires and thinking instead about a pup’s thoughts and desires.

What is needed for puppy play?

For most, puppy play is primarily a headspace. It is about a pup mentality, where your world consists mainly of what’s within four feet of the ground. Puppy play is cheap and can be done with a minimum of gear. That said, there is some gear that helps maintain headspace.

Collars – A collar may be the most important part of gear for a pup. Besides providing a place to put a leash and a tag, wearing a collar helps immensely in putting a pup into the proper headspace. Unowned pups should not wear tags.

Kneepads – A more practical consideration than anything, a cheap pair of kneepads from home depot will help keep your pups knees from being chewed up and allow for longer play.

Paws/Mitts – Paws help keep a pups hands restrained, preventing them from being used like a humans and also serving to protect hands during play.

Hoods/Muzzles – A muzzle helps prevent a pup from using his human voice, and serves to make him look more dog like. Hoods look even more dog like (some are very realistic) and are usually less restrictive.

Toys – Every pup needs some good chew toys to chase. The best toys are soft, human teeth are not dog teeth. Hard toys like bones and rawhide shouldn’t be used. Rope toys are OK but should not be tugged on hard.

Bowls – A large dog bowl is best. A human pup’s snout isn’t as long as a real pup’s. Best way to measure is to stick your face in and see if it fits!

Human Pup Play For Me!

Hi fellow pups, what is Human Pup play means to me, well whist it is a fetish, so is leather and that’s is why I identify as a leather pup. Sometimes from outsiders looking in or those who are new or wishing to explore pup play, it may come across as bizarre, but this can be said for all different forms of sexual fetish activity.

Sirus Pups in Sydney hits the nail on the head:

“Like any sexually expressive activity, pup play can be interpreted and performed differently by different folks in different places. What works for a bunch of guys in Sydney Australia certainly can be different to what a few fellas in Munich Germany are doing.”

Fundamentally Human pup play is simply a man, or woman, losing their clothes and inhibitions and behaving like a dog or a pup to an extent. I tend to add my fetish of leather in the type of pup attire I wear or purchase. Other pups may prefer to have no clothing, whist others may be rubber pups, neoprene pups. Pups as I do you can add your fetish to your expression as a human pup. As mentioned in an earlier post – Pup Headspace there can be a deep intense role-play, with a human pup exploring the world from all fours and forming a deep bond with an Owner. So headspace is important for me as a pup, it allows me to loose my inhabitions and the stress of the real world, this in itself is really relaxing. I get a lot out of sharing my pup self with close friends and my partner of 16 years.

“A human being a pup wants to let go of inhibitions, and take a break from the stress of the human world for a time by being a different being.” Pup Boss, Sirus Pups.

Basically human pups simplify their desires and motivations as they embrace a new expression of themselves, they embrace their inner K9, for me I embrace both my inner K9 and my wolf Spirit – My wold spirit is Ripples the Indian blue water wolf.

As a pup I can wag my tail, lick my handler’s hand or curl up in his lap, or sit beside him at his feet. I am able to express my  feelings in new and direct ways, and I can do this without fear of judgement. For me, and many other pups that I have chatted to online, pup play can be one of the most thoughtful, playful, and sane form of  BDSM. Pup Play involves taking into consideration how you express yourself, communicate (no Verbal and in pup language and behave as you let go of your human instincts.

As I have mentioned in previous posts, I tend to have two different pup persona’s one is Comet, now Comet is all about headspace, letting go of my human side and embracing by inner K9. It may involve a role play, but generally its allowing me to relax, or be in a social scene. Comet will walk on two legs as at events sometimes its not practical to be on all fours, Comet is the show off and the cheeky pup, he is the one that most will meet at social events. Comet is the Boisterous pup, who loves a chase and is very extroverted and sometimes mischievous.

The other is Scout, he is aStudio Session-027 little different to Comet as he has a large sexual component, and is frisky in nature. Scout seeks discipline in pup play and enjoys the experience of dominance and submission which is a turn-on in and of itself.  Scout is also more structured and not as flighty as Comet. Whist Scout may be out and about in public, he is adventurous and loves to explore, but not always happy to be in a social setting, and is very protective and is likely to be a little aggressive as he will stand his ground. Scout as a human pup is capable of frisky human sexual behaviour with other pups and/or his handler.

Whist it may appear the two two different pups may be interchangeable and sometimes I may be required to switch pups depending on what is being expected of me. Both pups are loyal, whilst Scout is far more obedient then Comet, both are playful and love a good scratch or pat. As per protocols always ask the pup’s handler first, and be aware that in pup mode either pup will protect his handler.

What are the roles in pup play?
There is no authoritative list of the roles in puppy play, but the most common names and meanings are these:
dogs are more interested in the dog persona: barking, being on all fours, the physical aspects of being a dog. They may be a more ‘independent’ pup.
pups are more about the canine head space then the physical. They think like a dog would, and crave attention like a puppy does.
alphas are the more aggressive, dominating pups. They will pose themselves as pack leaders, but will often also look after the pups in their pack.
Handlers are anyone the takes care of a pup. The one holding the leash per se.
Trainers train the pups to behave, do tricks. Trainer and Handlers may overlap.
Masters are usually the same as in other BDSM roles, they own the pups, and may or may not take part in the other roles.
biopup/biocanine – These terms refer to the biological animal (Canis lupus familiaris) to distinguish from the human animal.
Twink - Human Pup

Twink – Human Pup

Sirus Pups - What is Human Pup Play
NEPups - Pup Play 101
Jay Wiseman - A beginner's Guide to BDSM Munches


Hey all,

Sorry I have been making some technical errors with posting, I think I found what I was doing wrong and hopefully this will stabilise my blogging.

The technical errors or Human Pup Error only affected Punishment Vs Discipline  and Headspace.


Pup Ben

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Pup Headspace

A headspace is place in your mind where you can put yourself into a role that you otherwise would not fulfill. This is similar to the concept of self-hypnosis where you are able to achieve a higher sense of awareness of self and are able to focus intently on a single idea and suggest ideas to yourself that you might otherwise find silly. Just as there are many different ways to enter a headspace, there are many different headspaces one can enter. In other words, a slave and a pup may both be in the same gear, and be eating out of the same dog bowl, but due to the differences in personality, will result in them acting differently. Having experienced the power of hypnosis, I find that a feeling of security and calmness is the basic formula for achieving a suggestible state of mind. This can be assisted with gear like blindfolds, hoods, earplugs, or other types of sensory deprivation.

In my experience in pup play, I find that it’s not the gear, but the mentality which really makes a good pup. Sure a high quality pup hood can make a hot photo, but pup play is about the dynamic relationship between pup and Sir. For me, a pup headspace is achieved in stages. I first need to get into a submissive headspace. For me, I find bondage like handcuffs, collars, fist mitts, hoods or the like to help me become more passive (after exhausting myself struggling of course). This is where the concept of self-hypnosis plays a role. As a bound submissive, I start to tell myself that I am not in control, and that in all that matters right now is Sir’s desires and wishes, because I no longer have choice.
The next step is a bit more tricky, as the ability to enter and the process of entering a pup headspace differs from person to person. I find that being treated as a pup, being pet and being given simple commands and rewards is helpful in lulling myself into the headspace, but for newcomers, this may seem silly and unintuitive. The key is to place yourself into a state of deep relaxation where you can suggest to yourself that acting and reacting like a dog isn’t silly, but expected. Although easier said than done, once a headspace is achieved, a sub can be pushed harder and deeper into the role, and a Dom can have a hell of a lot of fun with an eager pup.


This article post describes quit well, in my experiences what is pup headspace, and I agree gear is not what gets me into my pup headspace, Though I personally find a collar or hood really helps me, the smell of leather starts getting me relaxed and into that submissive role, or even the feel of rope against my skin, or restraints attached to my wrists and ankles will certainly put me into sub space. However I do not require it to get into my pup head, as the author above found it a way that he does.

For me, it may be a stretch, rolling the shoulders, then relaxation and then letting go of my human side, a collar really helps, and even calling me by my pup name, will take me our of human mode. Just being put on a designated mat, that my partner SM-Leatherboy has commenced will assist me entering into my sacred space of pup-topia. I also need to block out the days events and stop thinking like a human does, so I need a clear mind, and this is achieved by breathing exercises, and relaxation. getting down on all fours. I find as a leather pup, the smell of leather starts the journey towards my altered states.

I also have to have trust in the person who is handling me and looking after me, that bond is unique and special to me.  The  Handler/Sir/Master has my submission in their hands and I have gifted it to them of my own free will and want them to have a level of control over my submission. The level that is offered is one that has been agreed to, and sometimes it is complete control as I drop from my human side to my pup side.

Pup’s Comment:

I have been so fortunate and blessed to be loved by my caring partner SM-Leatherboy he has helped in my growth and development. I would also like to thank three other great friends – Hazy, Dominus and Maximus. These four inspirational men have helped with my growth and my journey and have kicked my ass when needed and also allowed me to be me and explore my pup-hood.

I have many others who have answered my questions and even offered advice and these include Wolf, Gpup Alpha, PupBoss, Kobi and Alex

Discipline Vs Punishment – A pup’s perspective

Discipline Vs Punishment – A pup’s perspective

I’m often asked how should a pup be punished, I generally respond how would you punish your own K9 Companion. I would hope you would not hit or kick your own biological dog. However human pups are a little different, they can enter into agreement and negotiation on the types of play and training they would like to undertake.

Just as your biological dog, human pups all have their own unique personalities and desires and therefore punishment or discipline needs to be catered to each individual human pup.

In short, the quick answer is that punishment should fit the crime……. but human pup’s also requires positive reinforcement when the pup does what is required correctly, and if its not up to standard, sometimes corrective action, example showing the pup how to do set task in the correct manner, may be needed. Corrective action could also include some corrective actions such as withholding time spent with their Sir/Mistress or some prodding in the right direction such as physical correction such as cropping, branding, shocks, etc. but this should not be seen as punishment and when the pup gets the said task correct this must be followed up with positive reinforcement.

From my perspective and this I have found true with many other pups and submissives, is the one thing a pup can beat himself up the most about is when he knows that they have disappointed their Sir, Master or Owner. You may not have to do anything to the pup, expect show displeasure. The human pup is loyal and only wishes to please in a happy pup kind of way. Whether the pup is being boisterous or bouncing around or making a show of himself, he deep down knows that he is there to please his Owner/ Master / Sir or Handler. In many cases a frown, glare or showing your displeasure with the pup should at most times be enough to bring him back into line. But this also needs to be followed up with positive reinforcement – such as a scratch, a pat, belly rubs or a pup (human friendly) treat. Even a “good boy” can go a long way when defining what is expected of the pup.

As stated by Ms Velvet,

“Of course, everyone has a different view, don’t assume that my explanations below are a universal truth…..there is no “one true way”, no rules and no official body policing them.   This is just how it works for me…”

This is so true in any perspective and it is always interesting to hear other views on topics, especially this one. I also appreciate that Discipline and Punishment can be different from the type of submissive, and can be handled differently by Dominants.


Context:  Let’s firstly remember that we are talking about consensual adult activities and relationships here, this may include the notion of consensual non-consent – thus providing appropriate negotiations have occurred between the parties involved.

– I’d be very interested in your comments on how your views differ from mine – please post a comment at the end of this post.

Pup Play: Whist pup play is a form of BDSM in particular BD / DS dynamic, some pups also get into SM. This may not be the same for all pups, for example my pup space (pup head-space) is very different from my sub space or even boy space. Without blurring the lines, my pup head-space is very different, I do not get flogged or get into heavy forms of BDSM play when in my pup headspace or mode, Even though I identify as a pup, I also have my boy space or sub space where whist I am identify as a pup I am not in my pup headspace when experiencing heavier BDSM activities.

Example If I was to break down my BDSM component of myself I would say that my pup self is about 30% of me, then theirs my Switch or Dominant / Alpha self about 15%, then my sub self about 20% and boyish self 15%, and sexual self 20%. This makes u a holistic approach to me as a being or entity (my BDSM lifestyle has become a huge part of my self and relationships I would say  at least 50% of my make up, the other parts would include professional / community ./ sport / spiritual / gender identity and family. And many of these may cross over from time to time.

It should be noted a pup can not be in pup mode 24/7, it is unsafe to do so and not possible, however I can identify as a pup 24/7.

As previously mentioned,  as a pup I am eager to please my Handler / Sir / Master / Owner (For the record I have never been owned.) And pups should be naturally playful, and it should be no surprise even a little disobedient in comparison to other forms of submissive’s, and may be viewed by some in the leather / BDSM lifestyles as a bratty sub.

So a frown, glare or the notion I have disappointed you, will generally be enough to pull me back into line, however for other pups this will depend on how much training your pup has received. Just like a biological puppy, you need to teach your pup the commands, posture and positions you would like him/her to understand, this is best done through positive reinforcement. (I will be doing another post latter on this topic)

Once your human pup knows the basics, even some party tricks, then the training can begin. And depending on the play types you wish to explore with your pup will depend on the types of discipline that is required.

D/s Dynamics – I regard this as a fun, pleasurable activity – something I can do with a Handler(s) or Sir / Master, This is where I want to please you, and submit to my Handlers / Sir’s desires and needs. As a pup I am naturally loyal and protective of my Handler / Sir and will want to please, be trained, follow direction and do tasks that I am set or trained to do. This is the advantages of a Human Pup – We can do much more then a biological Puppy.

In Human mode with a pup identity, pups can generally submit with a cheeky smile and push the boundaries, and get into mischief; to many experienced Dom’s this can appear to be the sub not following direction (pups are not slaves unless this has been negotiated between the parties and you want your pup to be a slave pup or a police / military style dog). This is when boundaries, and structure is set for the type of pup you want and what the pup can expect and what you expect from the pup, very similar to a transaction.

  • Once again there is no one set way or rule to do things, this is where the parties involved sort this out and what is best for their own D/s Dynamic. I can only speak from my perspective and experiences.

Reflection on experience:

What makes me submit immediately, I find there are 6 ways, and I am cautious about putting this up here because I do not like letting Doms know this, as I feel it should be part of the fun and training is exploring this together. This should be what is done between a Dom and a sub, as they explore what makes each other tick and whether the D/s relationship is right for them.

  1. A stern hand on my head whist in a sit, kneel or present position. This is showing me you have control, but you care for me and have my interests at heart.
  2. Cause I am into Anal play, just going near my ass will ensure immediate submission
  3. Restrained by rope:  I may choose to struggle to make it fun.
  4. In pup mode I have been trained to know who my handler is and whilst I may push a boundary, I also am eager to please (as previously mentioned), so know my commands and positions will tell me who is in control, and what direction I should be following. Keep in mind shock collars can be heaps of fun.
  5. Grab me by the hair and I will submit immediately
  6. Throw a protocol at me that I can understand in conversation, now a Dom that knows mean and one that I choose to submit for would have had conversations with me, and will know how their pup thinks and ticks, so with me, remind me of protocols, if I’m out of line and you will have a very submissive boy / pup knelling at your side.

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S&M play – I regard this as a fun, pleasurable activity – something I can do with my Dominant, however I may not be in a pup type of mode when doing these activities, this is to protect the pup. All pups are different and some may not want anything to do with flogging. However I love flogging, electrodes and exploring boundaries, this will be done with the boy space or sub space, and at times the pup may wish to experience some activities. Once again this is all about consent and negotiation your needs as a sub with the needs and desires of the Dom.

As a pup in play I love to be spanked, I enjoy a good wrestle. However to complicate things even more I have two pup spaces, one is all about pup headspace and it’s about being a pup, there is nothing overly sexual with this. My other pup self is a sexual pup. Basically one is for public and the other is both public and the bedroom.

S&M play will also vary on experience levels of the players and also what the parties wish to explore, I love to explore and look for my Dom to do this with me. But I also have limits that, with any form of BD / SM play needs to be respected, as a sub I am given you my gift of trust, and we are creating a bond that is sacred. In return you are the beholder and the keeper of my trust and sanctuary, and I give myself to you. I trust that the pleasure I am about to receive, will also provide you the pleasure of giving it to me, and taking me to limits and boundaries and also watching me squirm and submit to your desires, in order to please you. I also want to have my boundaries explored and pushed and this can only be done with a Dom that I have trust and respect for, as submission is important to me and the bond that is forged with a Dom and a sub is beautiful, unique and special, and should never be taken for granted by either party.

Perspective from Ms Velvet:

For me the dynamic and the mindset are not one of punishment for transgressions – other than in a fun “role-playing” kind of way. SM play has nothing to do with punishment and nor should it.   But if there is a role-play dynamic in place, it might be what I refer to as “Funishment”.   Or it’s just about the sensations.   S&M play can, in my world, be given as a reward, can be just because I want it, but is never about punishment.

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As a pup, punishment can be denial of submission, being sat in a corner or a designated place to consider actions, or being ignored, punishment can be a rolled up newspaper or something I do not like, under the agreed terms of the D/s. An example of this is at this stage I can not stand being pissed on, this could be a form of punishment. The dis-pleasurable feelings that I experience when I know that I have not met your desires or expectations or my behaviour or actions have displeased a Dom. I want to fix this and make it right. It may be writing to the Dom about hat has happened, with what lessons have been learned. Punishment needs to be delivered quickly, without delay, for pups I believe with in 12 hours of the punishable act or within a time frame when the Dom is made aware of poor behaviour. As a pup, I feel I need to be aware of what I being punished for.

On another perspective some Doms feel that if a submissive needs to be punished, this may indicate that there is something very wrong in the relationship.  I find that many Dom’s expectation is that their sub has chosen to serve, therefore he/she WILL serve and obey to the very best of his/her ability.  If he/she no longer feels obedient and willing to serve and obey the Dom, then a serious discussion about the future of the relationship is required.   If the action was deliberate or rebellious, and if no solution can be found, or is welcomed, then the only courses of action that should be taken is either to ignore him/her, to deny contact or deny the submissive his/her submission for a set period or release the submissive from their agreement /collar.   Ms Velvet states that, “really the only punishment I might contemplate is denial of the opportunity to submit.” (This was taken from 50 shades of BDSM from Ms Velvet) This is her perspective and once again the type of sub that I believe Ms Velvet has is that of a submissive slave. Source: 50 shades of BDSM

Pups are naturally little different as it should be natural pup trait to push some boundaries, but when the pup goes to far the above is in order; I encourage an open communication platform between both Handler/Master/Sir and pup. Discuss what has occurred, and find the punishment that fits the crime, it could be that the pup submits and does something that he does not like, but the Dom does. It can be removal of his favorite toys for an agreed time, it may be setting him a task or even a rolled up newspaper can work. However what ever the punishment is, do not make this part of the pleasure of BD or SM play, as it will soon not be a punishment or the play will not be pleasurable.

Just the other day I upset a friend, who is a respectable Dom in our community, I was wrong in what I did, and offered an apology. My punishment was swift, I was left to think what I had done, until the Dom was ready to inform me, this was done with in 4 hours. I then had time to reply to his discussion (this was done online) He was pleased that I took time to consider, instead of replying immediately. Knowing that I had disappointed him was terrible, I needed to show him that I was sorry and not just that be had learned the valuable lesson. The Dom ensured I knew what was required. I also know he knows some of the activities that I do not like, and that may be future discipline for my appalling behaviour. But the message that I received had it desired impact. It made me think, but also allowed me space to lean, develop and have an understanding of what it was that I did to disappoint. At the same time he placed a clear boundary on me for future corrective action, I was required in my learning to aknowlede my understanding of the set boundary and to agree to it. The choice was mine to make, I feel that I made the correct choice. It was a good lesson.

Discipline – I am firm believer that Discipline is a large part of BDSM it is fundamental to the core principals of the three aspects of B&D – D/s – S&M. To me Discipline is what drives me in my BDSM experience. When I do not complete a task correctly or become a little mischievous or even bratty, then corrective behaviour – discipline is what is required. These can be that firm hand on the head, a tap with a cane or riding crop; too being Sat on my pup mat to wait for instructions or even a delayed gratification.

Pups seek clear boundaries, and when there are none, pups will run riot, that is the core and nature of a pup. Pups require the servitude of the 3 s’s – Stability, Strictness and Structure. We also seek the warmth of our Handlers/Sirs or Masters (depending on the title of which the Dom wishes to be referred too), touch and bond that connects us. we like to be lead and given direction even when we are naughty, corrective behaviour works well, we learn when its ok to chase the ball, when its not ok to be on the lounge, when it is time to be respectful and when we can or can not be boisterous etc.

We learn set positions or commands, and we perform each task to our ability, we aim to please, and there may be times that through discipline that prodding or cropping is required to pull us back in line. This extra training a pup requires to understand their task and goals is required to nurture our journeys, and to become the best pup one can become and a good submissive.

From a Dom’s perspective – once again I am directly quoting Ms Velvet who has a marvelous blog at 50 shade of BDSM, please see her link below.

“ahhh but discipline is different.   Nobody is perfect; all submissives make mistakes, especially when learning a new task, or a new Dominant.  If the mistake was not a deliberate one, then clearer instructions or further training may be required, and the most effective training usually has some disciplinary action involved to help the sub learn how to do better – and as a reminder that I am the boss, and it has to be done the way I want, even if it’s not the best way……..yep, sometimes Dominants are wrong too 🙂   For example, a smart tap of the riding crop to the derriere of a sub scrubbing the floor will remind him/her to employ a little more vigour, or to go back and fix the spot missed.”

In short the two main differences are  Punishment must fit the crime and is when a deliberate act of defiance occurs, where discipline is all part of the training a submissive pup is required to undergo as part of their BDSM / leather journey. And don’t forget to reward for good behaviour – positive reinforcement always helps a pup with their training.f_0015dc copy

Now this is one thing that I like, Some Dominants use preventative discipline too – a regular spanking can help the sub retain the mental discipline required to keep in line. Pups should also get regularly training and tasks set to keep them in that metal sub midset. A pup after all is the sub in a D/s relationship.

I also acknowledge that pups are new to the BDSM scene, whist many have been around for some time, in only recently that we have really become accepted, and we many feel pups have changed the rules of play and even challenged them, we are the fun loving subs that are little cheeky and playful, we offer a very different type of servitude then say a slave, boi, butler or maid We offer similar principals as a biological K9, which is companionship, loyalty and gratitude for being under a Dom training and guiding hand.

I stress that this is based on my perspective and experience, and just like any sub no one pup is the same, and nor should they, as a Dom you may want a cheeky little pup, or you may decide to train your pup as an Alpha, a police style dog or a military dog, your pup may also be trained as a working dog or a show dog, its your training that will help shape how your pup responds and behaves, you, the Dom are the boss and in Charge, and any pup they does not want is not a pup that wishes to follow the core principals of BDSM

Note: The D/s relationship I refer to is that which involves a Handler/Sir/Master/Mistress and pup. The dynamic will be very different in say a pack, or a pup and pup relationship. In a pup and pup relationship, one pup would be the alpha, and take on a leading role.

Final word on Discipline Once again this is being directly quoted form Ms Velvet, as it is well worded:

If my sub kept on making the same mistakes, though, I would think that either their mind or heart was not focused on the task of serving me, and that we need to have a discussion.


it might be possible that a sub continually making mistakes simply enjoys the discipline meted out, and acts up in order to get some “play”.  This is manipulation of the Dominant in order to get something he/she wants – or in some cases it might be something he/she needs – eg more attention.   This kind of bratty behaviour might be referred to as “topping from the bottom”, or there might be a core need not being met.  Communication is the key to find out whether there’s something that needs to be fixed, or if the submission is simply not there at all.

How would you deal with a bratty sub?

Reflection: I get accused of topping from the bottom regularly, I generally do this with inexperienced Dom’s, I know why I do this to get what I want, However from an experienced Dom, I would be less tempted to even try this, and if I did I could only expect to be disciplined and reminded of my place as a sub and a pup.

Invitations: I would love to hear from other Dom’s and sub’s on their experience’s and perspectives, I do not expect you all to agree with me, in fact debate is healthy as it helps shapes views and when done in a positive and respectful manner, can help a sub on their journey. I do not know who will read this post, but I do hope that maybe I have helped them and if someone who may not hold the same view shares their perspective it may help me on my journey.


Ms Velvet – 50 Shades of BDSM

 Studio Session-040

The Endorphin Levels in BDSM

Disclaimer: Both the author and leatherpup is not a medical doctor, though this information has been checked with a doctor and two nurses who are in the BDSM scene. Frisky Business Boutique and leatherpup assumes no responsibility for people who use this information or for the effects that may arise from the application of the information presented in this article.

This has been re-posted from:

Although everyone into the BDSM scene has heard of endorphins, very few people really understand what they are, how they work, what the  “endorphin high” is all about, and how one can correctly induce the body to produce them. This short primer will answer those questions, and serve as a guide for anyone topping another so that they may successfully send their bottom into a very deep endorphin stupor (also known as “leaving them in a big puddle of quivering ecstasy”).

The endorphin high is caused by a bunch of natural, morphine-like chemicals the body pumps into the brain to reduce a person’s sensitivity to pain and raising the pain threshold. The fact that the body seems to release these endorphins in measured ‘loads’ is a key to understanding how to manipulate  the body to produce these loads and release them into the body and brain region when the load is ready.

Another chemical, adrenalin, is also produced by the body in reaction to pain, and its behavior should be understood also. This is covered later more thoroughly in the section on aftercare, which is a very essential element in guaranteeing the success of the effort.

The endorphin loads release in their entirety, and it takes the body about ten minutes to generate another one. After the body releases a load into the system, it needs at least ten minutes of some sort of stimulation before it will be ready to release another one. This stimulation can be just about anything – sensation play, light paddling, flogging, or light caning, for example – and it does not have to be nearly the intensity of the stimulation that caused the release of the last endorphin load.

Once prepared, an increase in stimulation over a five-minute span up to a measured “climax” will trigger the body to release the freshly-prepared load, based upon the submissive’s current pain threshold, measured to push them over a new edge.

Armed with this information, what does a session look like from the top’s and bottom’s points of view?

When a scene first starts, there are no endorphins in the submissive and even fairly light torment is very stingy, ouchy, and, well, painful! Fortunately, the body keeps an endorphin reserve in place ready to release in case of an emergency. This reserve endorphin load is released after just a few minutes of even relatively mild stimulation building to a mild climax, and suddenly the pain threshold clearly rises. Now, the subject can easily tolerate what may have been pushing the limits before, making him jump around and squirm, for instance. This new, more pain-tolerant state is Level One. There is no altered state of consciousness yet, but there is an increased pain threshold.

Once this has happened, for the top the next 10 minutes is spent doing anything that provides relatively light but constant stimulation to induce the bottom’s body to create the next endorphin load for release. This is a good time for sensation play, light paddling, flogging, or whipping. This is a chance for the top to relax, since the stimulation can be very mild and easy to apply during this time.

Once the ten minutes has passed, a build in intensity over a subsequent five-minute period will excite the body to a peak, and a sudden 10 to 15 seconds of intense stimulation just beyond the person’s current pain threshold limit will trigger the body to eject its freshly-made endorphin load into the bloodstream. Now the bottom will be at  Level Two, with still no perceivable altered state of consciousness (beyond panting in relief that you, the top, have ceased with the intense bit), but there is a considerable and noticeable leap in pain threshold now.

Following this, another ten minutes of mild, easy stimulation provokes the body into generating the next load. Keep this well below the pain threshold you’ve now created, with just a little intense whack every so often, about a minute apart. This will keep the adrenalin build-up to a minimum, for reasons explained later on. Time to relax, tops; rest that arm and wrist a bit! This relaxing ten minutes is followed with five minutes of building the intensity again to well above the previous level. The bottom’s pain threshold is pretty high now and he can take a lot more before the body interprets this as being “in crisis” and triggers the next endorphin release. Finish off with 10 seconds to a minute of a very intense, over-the-edge push, and the body will inject that next load.

Now at  Level Three, the bottom will definitely feel a little bit woozy, exhibiting a mildly-drugged state. His eyelids should appear droopy, and he will fall into a more relaxed condition than before, more low moans and groans, and lower inhibitions. Again, applying ten minutes of any relatively mild stimulation followed by a five-minute build and a 10- to 15-second intense climax well beyond the previous one will release the next endorphin load and push the bottom into a very nice Level Four head space.

At this Level Four state, there is a very definite altered state of consciousness.  The bottom will feel drugged and will be very compliant and submissive now. This is countered, however, by the largest charges of adrenalin he has received so far, the result of the intense climax just used to push him over this edge. The bottom is still quite communicative and his reaction time is still quick. The bottom may even be hypersensitive: a small whack with a paddle, cane, or whip can now generate a huge amount of twitching or jerking of the subject’s body. Now, during the ten minute “treading water” period for the top, the moans and groans will be longer and deeper, the body often limp in its restraints, and the reactions to the occasional harder strikes will be obvious. This is the top’s finest time: she  can still relax and not exert herself very hard, yet produce fine moans of ecstasy from her bottom with hardly any provocation! The pain threshold is high even though the reaction time is increased from the adrenalin. Harder occasional strikes are welcomed, and the reactions are certainly encouraging!

Sexual play with the bottom should occur around Level Three or Four. After after hitting Level Five, the bottom may be unable to concentrate for long on what he is doing. That can result in passionate and inhibition-free indulgence, resulting in heights of ecstasy never before experienced, or the bottom can lose his erection and be unable to concentrate. There’s no telling which way the bottom will go once he achieves Level Five or Six.

After this ten minute endorphin replenishment period, it is important to be very sensitive to the limit levels crossed earlier, as the top begins that five-minute build in intensity that will end in the most intense limit-pushing the top might do with the bottom for this session (presuming the top stops at Level Five). The bottom will have a very high pain threshold at this time, but also will be fairly groggy and less able to communicate a safe word. In fact, the bottom will now be so compliant that it is very unlikely that he would use it even if he ought to do so! So, push this “grand finale” with finesse and sensitivity to what is going on with the bottom! At the other end of the 10- to 30- second climactic build in intensity – in a wonderful blast – this latest endorphin load will push the bottom into Level Five: a state of supreme ecstasy, docility, and the bottom’s ability to take just about anything the top could do to him. The bottom will become very limp and relaxed very suddenly – and be very clearly in an altered state of consciousness.

This is the point most people end the scene and remove the bottom to cloak him in a blanket and begin the all-important aftercare, and unless the top knows the bottom extremely well, this is where the session should end. However, for those who do know the bottom’s limits, the rules and timing are the same as with the earlier segments. Now, the “mild” stimulation could be fairly intense, and the bottom will become extremely submissive and accepting of any amount of stimulation the top bestows upon him. This is a dangerous condition because there is NO WAY a person will utter a safe word in this condition. The bottom can barely talk at all! It is best to keep the stimulation relatively intense but not too extreme. The stronger intensity will hold up the adrenalin levels, and the combination with the elevated endorphins levels creates a condition of intense excitement and of simultaneously intense ecstatic relaxation for the bottom, so he’ll be into receiving whatever is being doled out. (More on adrenalin in a minute, though!) Again, finish off after the ten minutes with a building in intensity to one beyond that reached earlier, with a 10- to 15-second extreme point, and the next endorphin load will be released. Now we have brought the bottom to a very amazing  Level Six! Again, this should only be attempted with a bottom whose limits and abilities are already very well known. The top is working without the benefit of safe words being utterable; care must be exercised this whole while.

The bottom’s behavior can become unpredictable at this point with all the adrenalin and endorphins coursing through the body.  Be prepared to restrain against some wild thrashing and arm flailing (or at least be out of harm’s way). The bottom is in such an intensely altered state of consciousness that his reactions could possibly be extremely primitive in nature. He may only be capable of animal-like noises and very little speech. Following this reasoning, approach the subject as you would a wild animal: very gently, speak soothingly, and gesture in a calming manner. Be prepared for sudden jerking, or attempts to get away. Don’t take the erratic behavior personally! At Level Six, this person is totally ga-ga! Be assured, the bottom is enjoying every millisecond of this experience, and a very long period of dreaminess is now in store for him if the aftercare is handled properly.

Why do I go on and on about the aftercare? The work of putting endorphins into the subject’s body is finished, right? Well, yes, but you have also succeeded in putting very, very large amounts of adrenalin into the bottom’s system, and adrenalin is tricky stuff. Even at Level Four, aftercare is important because of how quickly adrenalin burns off compared to endorphins, which burn off very slowly. At Level Five or Level Six, there is enough adrenalin in the body that it will take at least 10 to 20 minutes for it to burn off (or longer). During this time, the bottom is likely to experience a number of adrenalin crashes (similar to coffee jags). Some of these can be intense and even quite frightening. The bottom will need to be kept warm and be held and comforted AT LEAST throughout this period of adrenalin burn-off. My opinion is that if you don’t care enough for the bottom to cuddle and caress them for up to half an hour, you probably shouldn’t be taking them to any Level Six endorphin/adrenalin levels.

The adrenalin “crash” experience for the bottom is something many, many tops are unaware of, and they have no concept of the amount of harm they could be doing to someone’s psychological state by not performing adequate, comforting aftercare. All the bottom needs now is to be held and to hold you (or whoever you assign to perform aftercare), to be comforted by your presence, and to be allowed to make you become the entire focus of their awareness. No stroking, or massage, or other stimulus is needed or even desirable at this time. What is important is to keep in contact with the bottom (not requiring words as responses, merely nods), and instruct the bottom every little while to relax. The adrenalin will have him in a very agitated state – with high heart beat and breathing levels – and this situation is completely counter to the endorphin experience. Sure, the bottom has a ton of endorphins in his system, but the adrenalin is presently holding the endorphins off and the bottom isn’t experiencing their full effect. The top’s guidance is extremely important to help the bottom relax through the adrenalin burn-off period.

If not actually “talked down” out of the adrenalin agitation, the bottom could easily never allow himself to relax enough to even feel the massive content of endorphins that currently exist in his system! Maybe you’ve seen a bottom who –  after an hour of intense stimulation to the point of near-total collapse on the cross or bench –  is released and after a mere couple of minutes is mingling with people as if nothing ever happened. These people are floating on a self-sustained adrenalin buzz. This is not only unhealthy, but these bottoms are also cheating themselves out of a long, long stretch of total endorphin-induced ecstasy!

Aftercare Instructions

While gently holding the bottom and letting him hold you back, coo softly and comfort him, and tell him to let himself relax. You will feel him do so as he complies to your wishes, as he is quite docile and open to receiving instructions at this point. But he will also slowly tense up again from the adrenalin. Keep reminding him to relax, telling him to give himself permission to relax totally.

As the bottom begins to relax after a while, he may experience a frightening “falling off a cliff” feeling that makes him tense again, or “blackness” as the endorphins relax the bottom’s optic nerve. This is a side effect of the chemicals burning off. The top’s job is to reassure the bottom that these experiences are completely normal, to let go and pass through it. The bottom has to relax through the sensation of falling or blackness with the understanding that this is quite normal and is a common experience. Once he does that, having “relaxed through it,” he will be “in it” after that point, and will relax deeply, often seeing beautiful technicolor visions and dreamlike landscapes, spaces, and places. How sweet!

Once this happens, your bottom needs only a little more loving attention, and can then be left bundled in a blanket somewhere on their own to float in a happy bubble, very possibly for hours!


There is another factor that can produce an altered state of consciousness far, far beyond even that of the most extreme endorphin experience. This is experienced by submissives whose intense focus upon their Master or Mistress (their Dominant) – and upon pleasing them – eventually leads to a hallucinogenic kind of altered state known commonly in the BDSM community as “flying.” This word has an almost mythological aura in the scene for very good reasons! It is probably the most profound experience one can have as a submissive. It involves a state of intense devotion towards the dominant (who is not just a mere “top” at this point) that borders upon religious worship, with complete trust and a total commitment to please and satisfy the Dom thoroughly. Through the attainment of a complete selflessness and focus on the dominant, a transformation takes place that is very, very deep, almost trance-like. It can become so profound as to produce an extended, blissful hallucinogenic state. Many have reported even seeing visions under the spell of this “flying” effect. All have attested to the profound sense of peace and bliss they have experienced while even near the edge of this state.

This flying state can be attained by some with very little endorphin content in their systems. (Some claim no endorphins are required, but I’m quite certain most folks have attained at least a level Three or Level Four endorphin high in order to trigger the total release of inhibitions that this psychological state seems to require, at least generally speaking.) With practice, the release into this “flying” submissive-space should come easier and easier, eventually with even a mere suggestion triggering the effect for some with very little or even no endorphin content being in the picture. COMBINED with the Level Five or Six endorphin head space, there likely can be no deeper state of ecstasy possible for the bottom — short of total enlightenment! Until such an experience of full enlightenment can be accomplished, perhaps the attainment of this interim bliss is acceptable, and certainly should be considered an attractive and enjoyable state to be in! The secret ingredients are: intense focus; a commitment to please the dominant utterly; and, complete and total devotion. These ingredients – with some endorphins in the mix – should produce a quite satisfying effect for both the submissive and the dominant.

Pup’s Experience: After reading this article that was posted in one of the FB groups, and since then I have reflected on my sub space, and realised that (whether the Dom has planned this or it just occurred) has used the concepts outlined in the above article. This really moves me from the cheeky pup, that I am known for to the quiet, obedient submissive. I particularly found this to be the case when I experienced fisting for the first time, even in the two sessions to the lead up of my mind blowing FF experience.  In saying this I was with a experienced BDSM practitioner.

On reflection this as occurred many times, in the past during scenes where BDSM has been apart of the play, including the use of floggers, restraints and even sensual play. I guess for a experienced Dom, the planning, and having your sub respond in various ways is a part of their experience, and I would argue that this is what helps build that connection and bond between the Dom and the sub.